How many of us truly believe we deserve the best in life? And I’m not talking about fantasising and dreaming, but deep down to the core of who we are. Do you feel you deserve the best? It is easy to settle in life, so easy just to accept our lot. Maybe we have tried and perceived many failures in terms of relationships, family, health, money, business and we have…
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Sometimes in life, we can be so fixated on a dream that we don’t notice the dream is not nourishing us anymore. This was me and my dream of the mental health and music radio station Peace Within Radio, and my trip to Glastonbury in the UK that took me on an unexpected healing journey. I had been pre-grieving the loss for some time before switching the ‘off-air’ switch on…
View PostSitting here on a humid June afternoon, I feel a furious rage and anger rising inside of me. I have spent a lot of time feeling both a mixture of relief, frustration and deep sadness for a few weeks now. However, now the anger of the grief cycle has arrived. Letting a big dream go after you have worked so hard on it is really hard, even more so when…
View PostWhile there are many stigmas around mental health issues, I think some of those deep dark underbelly feelings we may have during a heavy depressive episode are not only shoved under the carpet, but seen as taboo to acknowledge or talk about. For me that is the feeling of resentment born from bitterness, which in turn is born from repressed anger. When life has lost its sweetness; when life has…
View PostI’ve been on this path for a long time, the self-acceptance path. I turn 43 this year and before the year 2000 I was pretty much asleep, most of the time. I had very low self-esteem; I had no concept of self-love, self-care or self-compassion. Instead I adopted the coping mechanisms of over-eating and drinking alcohol. I really didn’t like myself, but I had no awareness that I didn’t like…
View PostYou Should Be Grateful! You must be thankful! You should be grateful. You need to be grateful for what you’ve got to get more…and so the list of must-do’s goes on, BUT is it true? I followed many ‘positive thinking’ teachers for a very long time and also got on the whole bandwagon of ‘creating your reality’ and the ‘law of attraction’ ‘Abraham Hicks’ railroad and I learned many things…
View PostThis post ‘Why Do We Suffer From Anxiety’ is in collaboration with Kalms. The content and opinions expressed below are that of kellymartinspeaks.co.uk As many of you know, I have experienced anxiety since childhood and I have done a lot to ease anxiety and find my own balance. The causes of anxiety can be different for everyone, but it’s worthwhile looking at what triggers us the most so we can change…
View PostGuilt Trips and Manipulation The reason we can feel angry at other people sometimes can be because we have not set good boundaries with them. We are not angry at them, but with ourselves. Boundaries for people-pleasers can be a real challenge, especially if you have lived most of your life trying to please other people or from an early age you were led to believe you were responsible for…
View PostFinding My Beauty Amongst The Ugly Voices In My Head So, in my forties I’m starting to unravel shame – body shame. Like many women, I’ve spent most of my life trying to fit in with the ‘ideal’, from seeing Disney princesses as a child, to airbrushed magazines and ‘perfect’ bodies in movies and TV, my body was slowly over time internally shamed by me. Brainwashing begins early on for…
View PostDepression is still something left unspoken. So many of us walk around the world plastering fake happy smiles on our faces, when inside we feel like we are dying. While gazing at my bedroom ceiling this week I day-dreamed about my best friend writing a status on my Facebook page, ‘I’m sorry to announce, but Kelly the owner of this page took her own life last night and lost her…
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