How To Use Envy As A Tool

Podcast how to use envy as a tool

“Envy is not the same as jealousy it’s often confused because jealousy tends to involve three people for example you’re in a relationship and you perceive under the woman or another man as a threat to that relationship that’s jealousy envy is more a two person experience it’s when you’re envious and wanting something that somebody else has say a certain characteristic or an attribute or on something that somebody else has “

– Kelly Martin

Envy is something that I have had a lot of experience with. I feel sometimes I have been envious for what feels like a decade, but the more I learn about envy the more it changes and the more empowered I feel

In this podcast I talk my own experience of envy and how we can change what feels like a toxic emotion to a more supportive and motivating experience.

If you want to be someone who acknowledges envy as a part of life but want to find a way to manage it in a more healthy way, this podcast is for you.

Highlights from the episode: 

  • How turn from blaming and victim-hood to presence and empowerment
  • How envy can close our heart to what really matters
  • When you change envy into motivation and use it as a gift
  • Why envy is a signal, signalling change is needed


“I projected blame unto them. I’d gossip about them and in the past I’d make them wrong just to make myself feel better because the envy was so heavy and painful inside of me”

“I couldn’t open my heart to love because the envy made me less loving towards myself. I had no compassion for myself and because of this I wasn’t able to give it to anybody else ”

“My ego was so fragile back then, so through mindfulness meditation I started to become more aware and started observe my feelings and to see what was happening for me, what was it that was causing me so much pain? And I started to realise that I could use this envy”





Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin is the author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ , a passionate writer and blogger questioning life’s illusions. After what seemed like a decade of intense anxiety, feelings of failure and grief from the loss of her father she chose to take a mindfulness path and has not looked back since. Kelly encourages people to find the treasures that lie within the pain and suffering and to learn to see themselves as ‘enough’ exactly as they are, right now through her writing and You Tube channel .

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