The Art Of Letting Go

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The art of letting go is accepting that what is taking place in our lives needs to take place.  To accept that who and what is in our lives is there for a reason. Everything I experience and view in my outer life is all me.  I can struggle with these representations of my inner world or accept and embrace them.

I agree with Abraham Hicks that looking intently at something I don’t like in life is not going to improve the quality of my experience.  However, I do feel we cannot neglect the object of this experience.  It’s merely a part of who we once believed we were and like any lost object it needs our love, acceptance and appreciation for the role it plays in our world.  Only then can it leave our inner worlds and ripple outward into the material world.

The more you want, less changes‘. This is the message I received in a dream on the 1st of May 2011.  While it shocked me to the core, it made me question my own experience of life further.  It is quite easy to get carried away with the ‘wanting’ of this law of attraction process.  Wanting, desiring and intellectually placing our wants in what Abraham Hicks calls our *vibrational escrow is okay, but if we are not willing to question our hidden beliefs about our worth and inner value it is empty promises and misplaced ‘wishing’.

Do I Really Want More Money Right Now?

For example with my ‘wanting’, a simple and honest question I had to ask myself was ‘Do I really want more money right now?’  And this question has to be directed to the heart not the mind.  It is very tempting to jump straight to the answer we think we want ‘YES!’ but often something lies beneath the reason why this ‘want’ has not manifested into one’s life.

As Byron Katie says in her four amazing questions for questioning our thoughts.

  1. I want more money – is this true?
  2. Can I absolutely know that this is true?
  3. How do I feel when I think the thought ‘I want more money?’ and I haven’t? How do I relate to the world around me? How do I respond to friends and family?
  4. How do I feel when I don’t think the thought ‘I want more money?’

She then tells us to turn around our thoughts.  For example : ‘I don’t need more money’.

And from here we dive into understanding why we don’t need more money, right now. 

This questioning really takes off the pressure that we can often put on ourselves.  It’s all okay, as we always have what we need.  Until on a deeper level, we need something different.

Let Go Of Control

Relinquishing control and accepting and appreciating ‘what is’ in life may not be the easiest thing to do, but it is probably the most worthwhile.

For me I have found accepting ‘what is’ has led me to my own inner wealth, my own expression of my heart, through writing.  For me I am writing my way through my own relief and allowing my life to flow.

I can look at my current life experience, and look at the lack, and feel lack-full inside myself or I can seek the nuggets of wisdom this empty beautiful space has for me.

If life differs from what you want, what is it in your current experience that gives you your greatest teaching?

Your inner self will show you – your way.

For further information on looking more deeply I highly recommend Byron Katies book Loving What Is – which can be purchased from any leading book seller or at

*Abraham Hicks defines their term ‘vibrational escrow’ as:

If you could see an aerial view of your life, an aerial view, where we are seeing you, electrically, it’s like you are standing here, and over there is a doorway, and on the other side of the door is lined up all of these things that you’ve been wanting. They’re just leaning on the door, just waiting for you to open it. They’ve been there from the first moment you asked for them: Your lovers, your perfect mates, your perfect bodies, your perfect bodily conditions, all of the money that you could ever imagine … all things that you’ve ever wanted. Things little and big. Things that you would call extraordinary and significant, and things that you would call not very significant. Everything that you have ever identified that you wanted is lined up right outside that door. And in the moment that you open the door, all things wanted flow to you.

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Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.

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  1. May 7, 2011 / 12:45 pm

    Great post Kelly, I appreciate you adding in the definition of the vibrational escrow at the end, such a great visual 🙂

  2. May 8, 2011 / 5:41 pm

    Your welcome Lee Ann, thanks for commenting 🙂

  3. May 9, 2011 / 1:11 am

    Nice!! So true. Everything is exactly as it should be or it would be different. There's a lesson in everything. When we truly are willing to accept this, that's when we are truly alive again. Flowing rather than resisting. Thank you! 🙂

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