When It’s Time to Stop the Blame Game

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”― Byron Katie Relationships can be tough, romantic, business, political, countries or otherwise. We have been taught to believe an ‘ideal’ by social conditioning, movies, storybooks and gender roles in society. We have been given the idea that a relationship will make us…

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Are You Scared to Accept Your Wounds?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean Episode 66 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks, this is episode 66. I’m your host Kelly Martin. To begin this episode, I want to say a huge thank you to those listeners who contacted me after I asked for feedback on episode 65 ‘What If Your Inability to Receive Is From Past Trauma’. As you…

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Why Social Media Could Be Hurting You

You may have seen articles on how social media can be addictive, but what does this mean in the scheme of an everyday human’s life? Social media when used wisely can be a positive experience. The trouble is that so few of us have a supportive inner voice, so any positives can be outweighed by the negative. Why does social media hurt? Because it can become an avoidance to living,…

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What If Your Inability To Receive Is From Past Trauma?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean Episode 65 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Before I begin todays podcast, I wanted to say thank you to those of you who listen to my podcasts, because this may be my last podcast for some time. If you would like me to continue creating podcasts, email me at kellymartinspeaks@gmail.com so I know that you want to continue tuning in. And now…

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WIN Emerging Proud Through Suicide Book

Recently I was invited to contribute to this amazing little pocket book ‘ Emerging Proud Through Suicide’ to help people see that we can emerge through suicide and that depression and life challenges can hold a great gift as we move through them. In my Podcast ‘Can The Pain Of Depression Be A Gift‘ I talk more about this topic.  I feel it’s very important to look at mental health…

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Are You Holding On To Life Roles That You Need To Change?

PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Have you ever looked at your life and wondered if the roles you wear are inhibiting your ability to live a satisfying life? Are the roles you wear holding you back? I’ve worn many roles in my life, many of them really negative stories I felt I had to wear, some of those roles kept me safe from perceived harm, others helped me believe on the surface I…

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Why Your Happy-Ever-After Is Ruining Your Love Life

Like many women I was taught all about fairy tales in love. I was brought up on storybooks where the Prince rescued the fair maiden and Disney Movies where Cinderella lived a hard life and was given the gift of her happy-ever-after once she was rescued and fell in love with the Prince. There’s nothing new to this story. Most of us have this brainwashing, men included. But what matters…

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Are You Sure That You Have Blocks?

Have you ever felt that life was dangling carrots on the end of sticks for a lot of your life? For example: ‘Soon your life will change’ or ‘Your spring is coming’ or ‘Keep going…just around the corner the old is leaving and the new is coming in?’ This has been my impression of life on and off for a long time. It felt like a perpetual new beginning was…

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Embracing the Dark and Light in a Troubled World

Now you are presented with an opportunity to see life in all its dimensions, from the depths to the heights. They exist together, and when we come to know from experience that the dark and the difficult are needed as much as the light and easy, then we begin to have a very different perspective on the world. By allowing all of life’s colors to penetrate us, we become more…

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Book Review: The Happy Mind

Book: The Happy Mind – A Simple Guide to Living a Happier Life Today Author: Kevin Horsley and Louis Fourie Published: 3rd January 2018 Publisher: TCK Publishing Genre: Self-Help Many people who read my blog know that I am very much a sceptic when it comes to self-help books. Especially books that make unsubstantial claims on happiness. I was hesitant to review this book, but I thought I would put…

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