Balanced Power – International Women’s Day


It seems a really important time for women in the world. Since last year, women have begun rising up for women’s rights more than ever. Some men have been supporting women in their challenge of abuse, violence and rape, and the general way in which women have been used and abused for centuries. Some very patriarchal cultures, for example India, have a very controlling way of viewing women; very behind the times of the changing cultural perspective on women, and in other cultures women are also seen as second class citizens. It is perfectly natural that the growing energy of anger and frustration of women, has been building, and now that energy has reach tipping point and women are voicing their needs more and more.

Patriarchal Structure

We are after all 50% of the global population, so this is our time. A time of more balance between the sexes and a balance of the feminine and masculine in society.

Women tried to bring that balance back many years ago when feminism was a new concept, and it did do a lot, but it also lacked the real feminine energy. It was more a masculine energy embodied in the feminine. It was a starting point to improve women’s rights.


Margaret Thatcher An example of an unbalanced
masculine energy embodied in female form.

Margaret Thatcher is a good example of the way feminist society came through in the UK, yet because politics is a masculine power structure, she too had to become very masculine through her female form to get where she did. Now I feel confident that a new way of being a woman has entered the world and it is emerging more and more each day.

I feel that with many new examples of group dynamics, like ladettes*, came an unbalanced power in women. Women have become the predators when for example out drinking with friends, preying on men. We need to swing the pendulum back towards the centre, and find our strength in the strong, gentle feminine energy; the intuitive and the receptive qualities of our essential natures.

 Photo by  J. Gimme™

I hope to see the porn industry change and for more women to say no to partners that have been brainwashed to think healthy sexual behaviour is what they see in porn movies. This is simply not true. Letting a man deep-throat you, or express his orgasm on your face is not healthy sex, it is dominance and power of the patriarchal energy. The porn industry is an element of the imbalance of masculine/feminine and I am glad that books like ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ are allowing women to explore their sexual nature more, yet even then, the man has the power and control over the woman.

I can’t be the only one who is deeply offended by the porn industry, and the education it is breeding in the men of the world.

So on this International Women’s Day, I ask you, 
what do you feel as a woman about the changes taking place?
What are your views on the porn industry?

*ladettes – a young woman who behaves in a boisterously assertive or crude manner and engages in heavy drinking sessions.


Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.

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  1. Anonymous
    April 21, 2013 / 3:05 pm

    My opinion:
    porn – No. Erotic acts – Yes.

    Naked woman is beautiful, naked woman is a goddess.

    Please, You read:

    • April 22, 2013 / 3:31 pm

      Thanks for commenting, yes, porn no, erotic acts yes. I also feel woman is a Goddess.

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