We are told to stay away from negative people – that they will pollute us. Many say put a psychic bubble of protection around us when in the company of people of a low vibration. Some say people are vampires and so much more. But what if everyone has got it wrong? What if instead of avoidance and contracting, we need to expand and connect to these people who apparently cause so many problems?
Many years ago I did a psychic development course. We learned all about the human aura, the chakras and were told to surround ourselves in a protective bubble. We were told some people are like vampires and suck the energy out of people, and that those of us who are extra sensitive need to protect our energies at all costs. But many years later I see this differently. I see the human race differently and I see my outer reality differently.
In the past if I was in for example a cafe, and if someone was extra loud, had a sharp tone in their voice, was angry or expressing in a volatile nature, I naturally contracted. It was a feeling of fear or not feeling safe in some way. But what got me thinking about all of this is that we are not separate from other humans; if we find something uncomfortable in another we need to face and embrace that discomfort within ourselves.
In my recent post ‘What Is Love?‘ I wrote about how we are love, and how divine love has and always will be within us all. It surrounds us in the trees, sky and creatures on the planet, is inside our hearts, our skin, the air we breathe. We are not separate from love so perhaps instead of contracting and withholding our love from the people who are deemed ‘negative’ we might expand, breathe in that negative and in doing so let that love flow.
To me, those people who cause us the most discomfort could quite possibly be a great gift that we have allowed into our worlds, a reason to experience love. Not ordinary human love that tends to be conditional and limited, but limitless whole love.
Expand Don’t Contract If Someone Is Sharing Something Displeasing
Displeasing, this is a word that makes more sense than negative. Negative is a word that perhaps makes another person wrong for expressing something they need to express. What we think is someone being negative could quite honestly be a way to process and handle some intense suffering we have no idea about or could never understand unless we had spent a lifetime in their shoes.
Expanding and Accepting Does Not Mean Putting Up With Abuse
No Need To Defend Yourself Against Negativity
Test If The Person Is Negative Or If You Are Simply Perceiving Them Negatively
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Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.
