Responsibility: Release Guilt – Release Blame

It is quite easy to blame ourselves when somebody else is hurting or stressed, if we view our actions as causing the person pain in some way. There comes a time when we need to release and let go of the responsibility we may have heaped on our shoulders because of…

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Welcome Fear

A teacher once said to me when I was having an anxiety attack, say to yourself: “Welcome Fear”. She also went on to say: “God loves your fear, your anxiety, all of who you are.  Nothing is not welcome with God.” Yesterday I posted a blog about my trip to…

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You Can’t Learn To Be Alone Until You’ve Been Lonely

The sacredness of solitude is so often an overlooked experience to be had in life.  Society is made to pity the lonely or those who live alone. Later in life single people at dinner parties are pitied by married couples with children.  When you hit 30 it’s as if the…

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Letting The Lonely Go

  I am told to express my feelings.  To let them out.  My writing is what I am all about. With tears streaming down my face,  I find it hard to express this place. Today is my loneliness day. The harsh reality of feelings curdling through my soul. Instead of…

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Embracing Uncertainty – Flowing The Unknown

It is really easy to understand why so many people in the world, including me, will do anything to try and keep some element of control on life, even though its only perceived control.  The real unknown, the real flying by the seat of your pants uncertainty is scary stuff!…

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Goofy, Buck Teeth & Crooked Smiles

Accepting our humanity, including those parts of us we may consider are flaws is so important for our wellbeing and personal balance. When something in us seems wrong, imperfect or even viewed as ugly it can really place a deep dent on our self-esteem. I used to be called goofy…

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What Is Beauty? What is ‘Normal’?

I would like to begin to look at my physical self as the new ‘normal’. The media, magazines, television, celebrities, dentists, beauty ‘experts’ share opinions of a smile that is similar to mine needing fixing. The would view my ‘imperfect’ teeth as not nice and not attractive.  I feel after much…

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Thriving As An Outsider

Being an outsider is the most rewarding experience of my life. For many years I have tried to fit into a mould.  During school years the mould of my peers, during college the mould of intellectuals, as my spiritual awakening happened – the mould of the spiritual elite. AND for…

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Divinely Selfish

  Insights on myself are coming in thick and fast right now. Understanding my desires in life and revealing my true face to myself has been an eye opener. Why do any of us want anything in life? I realised my prime reason in life is to feel absolutely excellent!…

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Overcoming My Fear Of Public Speaking

Last night I attended a beginners belly dancing class in Cheltenham led by a wonderful teacher called Ann Blagdon.  I was a bit nervous as I hadn’t had a great experience with a belly dancing teacher in Gloucester. So I decided to start again as I had enjoyed a taster session…

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