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Self-Esteem

It Takes All Forms Of Love – Quirky Alone Day

It Takes All Forms Of Love – Quirky Alone Day

So, it’s Valentines Day in the western world today. Many couples sharing gifts, romantic candlelit dinners and gestures. But how do single people feel about this day? The commercialism of the day itself has encouraged misery among single people. Unfortunately the social structure of this world is often built on relationships.If you choose to be, or are, circumstantially single you are hardly ever encouraged to revel in your single status. Instead we…

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Self-Esteem

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

    “When life is empty of this and that, The more we hold on, the less we catch, The life we once had, the life we once dreamed, Falls by the wayside and is not what it seemed.”    – Kelly Martin, 2011 How many of us reach a crossroads in our lives and recognise the scenery, but notice instead of reaching the winning square, we’ve been transported back…

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Self-Esteem

The Pendulum Swings : Accepting & Appreciating Your ‘Negative’ Traits

The Pendulum Swings : Accepting & Appreciating Your ‘Negative’ Traits

Are you bossy? Controlling? Manipulative? Arrogant? Patronising? Sarcastic? Naughty? Rebellious?..   When you beat yourself up for these qualities did you know that you may be imposing limits on who you are?   Have you considered that certain personality traits seen as flaws or weaknesses simply require your loving acceptance? Have you ever met a person who doesn’t give a damn what anybody else thinks of them? ‘Flaws’ and all?…

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Self-Esteem

On Being A Victim – A Larger Perspective

On Being A Victim – A Larger Perspective

This morning I had some old drama creep into my mind, and I ran the train of thought until I was in panic mode. I won’t go into details but it really put things into perspective regarding the bigger picture of life.   None of us are victims – we are not powerless to circumstances – we are not dis-empowered by people ‘out there’.   No road is available to us unless…

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Self-Esteem

Consumerism And The Recession

Consumerism And The Recession

So how did it get to this? Where people fill gaps where love could be? With the next Iphone, Ipad, designer clothes and labels galore? When did consumerism become the source of well-being people are looking for?   I know many people struggling with this recession and I know it is tough going for many people, but I see it as a huge wake-up call to get our priorities right.…

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Anxiety

Managing Anxiety & Fear Of Loss

Managing Anxiety & Fear Of Loss

Sometimes life throws you internal curve balls and if something is not dealt with it simply becomes bigger and bigger until we have no choice but to deal with it.  My curve ball is anxiety.   Anxiety has been an emotion that has been so familiar to me ever since I was a small child. My mother suffered from it, my father suffered from it, and I guess I did from an…

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Self-Esteem

Validation – Can We Truly Validate Ourselves?

Validation – Can We Truly Validate Ourselves?

I am sitting at this computer to help me understand what I need to know right now about this subject of validation. It is not until I started questioning where I am coming from that this subject keeps coming up for me.   When I felt part of the human tribe, an insider, a person who belonged to a group or sector of society, my validation, my reason for being…

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Self-Esteem

Responsibility: Release Guilt – Release Blame

Responsibility: Release Guilt – Release Blame

It is quite easy to blame ourselves when somebody else is hurting or stressed, if we view our actions as causing the person pain in some way. There comes a time when we need to release and let go of the responsibility we may have heaped on our shoulders because of something that happened to someone else.  It is easy to see how our actions have consequences but often, as humans,…

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Anxiety

Welcome Fear

Welcome Fear

A teacher once said to me when I was having an anxiety attack, say to yourself: “Welcome Fear”. She also went on to say: “God loves your fear, your anxiety, all of who you are.  Nothing is not welcome with God.” Yesterday I posted a blog about my trip to the dentist’s chair and I awoke this morning with this feeling of terror arising.  Not so much to do with…

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Self-Esteem

You Can’t Learn To Be Alone Until You’ve Been Lonely

You Can’t Learn To Be Alone Until You’ve Been Lonely

The sacredness of solitude is so often an overlooked experience to be had in life.  Society is made to pity the lonely or those who live alone. Later in life single people at dinner parties are pitied by married couples with children.  When you hit 30 it’s as if the whole world has gone mad in its desire to have you settled down and married.  Especially as a woman. And…

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