There is that well known saying ‘sometimes things need to get worse before they get better’. As some of you know I have been questioning reality since 1999, writing this blog since 2007 and coming back to what truly matters, being authentic, embracing ‘what is’ and being more deeply present in my world.
For the first time in what feels like a decade, I am feeling creatively rich, I am feeling inspired, I am feeling better about who I am than I have ever felt before. At the moment completing a project that is sacred to me and close to my heart, and yet materially speaking things ‘appear’ to temporarily be worse than ever before.
My new project may change all of this but it may not. This is part of my life journey accepting ‘what is’ and allowing life to reveal ways of being and ways to experience a great sense of peace within. And for now ‘Hot damn! These feelings of poor!’
With little in the refrigerator at the time of writing this, not sure if I am able to attend my own sister’s wedding, sometimes wondering if I can eat lunch, I am faced with embracing abundance in a sea of seemingly outer poverty.
How Do We Feel Enough In The Midst Of Financial Hardship?
We take one-day-at-a-time.
We appreciate we are not starving because even if we have only one meal a day we can survive on this (not that I am having one meal a day but humanly we can survive on this).
We appreciate we don’t live on the streets. We have a roof over our head to keep us dry.
We have eyes to read this, we see the blue sky, the sun shines.
We look at how nature handles difficult weather systems. Trees with strong roots, present with ‘what is’, bending when they need to.
And more importantly, we get really present with only ‘this now moment‘.
We take action from the present.
We accept worse case scenarios. Yes we can do this. This brings acceptance, brings relief.
For example:
I may not go to my sister’s wedding. Or I may go and come straight home. I may not have cream in my coffee. I may have to eat less for a while.
But, this material lack is NOT, I repeat, NOT who I am (or who you are if you are in a similar situation). This is simply a set of circumstances taking place. Much like clouds passing overhead. They come, they go, emotions and thoughts do the same, yet who I am, who you are, is beyond all of this and is unchanging.
And you and I can hold our heads up high as we listen to the present moment whisper our name, offer us guidance.
We can ask for help, but only if it feels empowering to do so. Obviously if you are about to be made homeless, yes get help. But if you are in debt and simply feel lacking because you cannot buy those luxurious items you had before, ask if asking for help in the form of money from friends or family is empowering or dis-empowering.
Have courage! Be brave!
You and I can live simply and for me it’s important to not ask for hand-outs because this would be dis-empowering to me right now. But it may be exactly what you need right now. It is a personal thing.
Dig Deep
So dig deep, even if materially things may suck big-time right now. Ask yourself if this ‘lack’ is any reflection on who you really are?
Ask yourself :
Am I lack of money?
Am I really poor?
If you really ask these questions and dig deep you will see that you are not poor. Who is the you that could be poor?
Are you your thoughts?
Are you your feelings?
Is the you, who you think you are, your brain? Your surroundings? Your material objects?
Who are you really?
And then let your life unfold, unravel those patterns and beliefs about who you are and begin to experience a greater sense of self-kindness and abundance from within.
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Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.
I am not sure I can articulate what I am feeling but I want to comment badly, so here goes. I have always had a difficult time letting people know who I really am; therefore, your transparency is heartfelt. I deeply appreciate you sharing your story. I wish you were closer, I would love to make lunch and chat with you! I am happy we are connected and look forward to growing with you.
@Lori~TranslationLady thank you so much. It is not easy letting people know who we are. It fact it can be damn hard. Its challenging to be vulnerable but I wanted to be able to show people my humanity so in doing so they can begin to accept and appreciate their own. Its still an ongoing work in progress sharing like this but becoming easier with practice. I would happily come for lunch and a chat. Great to grow with you too.
I meet so many lovely people on-line, but everyone is sprawled around the world doing their light-work in their areas, which is probably great, but some day I am going to do a tour haha! That would be cool touring the net.
I so resonate with you Kelly. I made the conscious decision last year to transform my money story to an experience of prosperity (as I define it). It's been a time of moving backwards to move forwards. I know that some family members are worrying about me because it looks like I am in a more difficult financial position.
Yet it has been the best year of my life, as I transform and release old beliefs and energy that does not serve my higher good. It's the most amazing journey. I am blossoming into my true self. Kudos to you on your journey as well.
Hi Andrea, I totally hear you about moving backwards and moving forwards. I have money beliefs that are slowly clearing but I am currently opening to receptivity and receiving. My family worry too because I live such an unconventional life to them and in-secure in the sense that whereas they have a specific sum coming in every month my life has been flying by the seat of my pants really. Embracing the unknown so much more. It is great we are learning so much from this. I realised some time ago 'lack' and 'poor' has been a gift in that it has encouraged me to embrace the simplicity of life and go inward. If I had been fulfilled with every desire over the past so many years I would never have gone inward to discover who I really am. And for this I feel we are all so brave. I am now ready to experience receiving now, or rather I am learning to open to this, I can still feel some reluctance so its slowly edging its way open – my heart. hugs xx
I used to ask for money from my parents, but I've made the decision not to do this from now, as I need to travel on my own pathway. Great post!
Within my family we have learnt that small amounts are more of a gift. Sharing where we can is also important.
Great to hear that Stevie, gifts are lovely. I find sometimes that some people can use money as a hold over people when it comes to larger sums. Depends what the family or friends are like.
I just stumbled across this post through seeing your link on Search Engine land and want to drop in and post my 2 cents.
In the same way you seem quite happy and creative now, probably by learning about things like mindfulness, being present, practising gratitude etc. Getting money is a learnable skill in the same way. There is no reason for anyone to be poor, there is an absolute abundance of wealth out there, and I encourage everyone to go after it.
There are immutable laws of nature that govern us. The same laws apply to money and being successful/happy/flourishing at anything. You just need to apply yourself in the same way. And before you say money doesn't bring you happiness (It really doesn't), it does make life a lot easier. I think you would really find it beneficial searching for some free info online about making money, being happy and being money wealthy are not mutually exclusive, and I'm sure you have what it takes to be more comfortable that way.
Thank you for your advice.