As a teenager I had quite bad acne, but rosacea did not come until my late twenties after my father died. I know that many people try to treat rosacea with a chemical or cream-based approach, and I did the same for some time so desperate was I to be rid of this condition. Alas nothing worked consistently until I realised that rosacea is not simply a ‘one-size fits all’ condition. Rosacea and shame seem to come together.
I am in my late thirties now and I’ve found something that seems to be helping a lot. It’s a combination of both emotional and physical healing, because I feel that rosacea should be approached in a more holistic way, including mind, body and spirit.
Rosacea ties in with how we feel about ourselves as human beings and I wonder if other rosacea sufferers are having similar experiences to mine, which included not feeling good enough, feeling embarrassment about who I thought I was to self and family, having intense rage and anger when feeling jealous that others were passing me by, and a toxic shame that I should feel ashamed of myself for my lifestyle and choices. No matter what the reason for these feelings, they are generally untrue and are just a story we were taught and believed whilst growing up.
All of these feelings may have been playing in the background of your experience for some time prior to the rosacea flaring and appearing on your skin.
Perhaps you had friends or family members appearing to outshine you; maybe you felt you had achieved very little in your life compared to others. There is no clear answer why some people experience rosacea and others don’t, because there are a lot of people who feel this way, but don’t experience rosacea. It could be that you are extra sensitive. This is not a bad thing as we hone our skills and become more in tune with who we really are.
The rosacea may have been triggered initially by a shock in your life, or maybe your life was going through some major traumatic change at the time it began, but you may find lurking in the background a sense of shame for something you have not made peace with, be it your own emotions, or sense of self, or something that took place in your world.
What Is Shame?
Shame is the feeling that who you are is not good enough; the feeling of being ashamed of who you are, your lifestyle, your choices, of how you ‘appear’ to both you and to the outside world; that there is something wrong with you, that you are defective, inadequate, not good enough, flawed etc etc..
• Shyness is shame in the presence of a stranger
• Discouragement is shame about temporary defeat
• Embarrassment is shame in front of others
• Self-consciousness is shame about performance
• Inferiority is all-encompassing shame about the self
Healing Rosacea Means Clearing Shame First
I had periods in my life where rosacea improved and I noticed a pattern to the healing process – creativity and a sense of meaning and purpose in my own life. A feeling that I had a reason to be here and that my life was of a value.
It was when I felt I was doing something worthwhile or I was being creative in some way that my skin improved. It could be through my writing, my art, or when I spent time practising 5 rhythms dancing. It was at these times that my skin became clearer. The redness still arose during extreme heat like sitting in the sun, but the acne and redness was far less. At these times I felt more me, I felt less shame, I felt more acceptable as a human being.
But it all came flooding back when I gave up whatever project or activity I was pursuing (generally because it was not right to continue it) and as the feelings of being ‘worthless’, ‘useless’ and a ‘failure’ came back to me, so did the redness and acne.
It is also possible that other skin conditions like psoriasis and eczema could have a background in shame or low esteem too prior to their onset. If you suffer from these conditions perhaps considering what was taking place for you when they all begin?
The Face Could Not Hide The Toxic Shame
The face reveals what we try to hide from the world. I am not talking about people who are unfortunately scarred in life, but for those of us who experience acne or rosacea or eczema, anything that could be seen as a stress-related condition. My face was literally saying ‘Look at me – I’m embarrassed because I’m not good enough’, but it was also a great signpost that something emotional needed dealing with and so it can be a gift.
Mindfulness Leads To A Greater Sense of Self-Kindness
Anxiety, fear, shame, anger, rage and envy can all be great fuel for rosacea. If you have rosacea it may be time to get really present with your emotional world. Yes, it’s not easy, but there’s no way past this stage of healing, and it’s so worth it on so many levels.
Mindfulness is being more fully present and in the moment with ‘what is’. This includes allowing feelings to arise, but instead of criticising or judging them, we become an observer of the feelings, as if they were clouds floating across the sky. This is only the beginning, as becoming more mindful becomes a great lifestyle change.
Why Be Mindful?
We can’t heal or make peace with anything we try to avoid. The emotional causes of rosacea are highly personal, and will vary from person to person, but when we begin to embrace these emotions with the heart of loving kindness, we begin to discover that right now, in this moment, we are enough!
Mindfulness Can Lead To…
- A physical solution to the surface level rosacea. For me I have discovered Turmeric home-made face-mask and Turmeric Drinks. This solution came as I became more mindful and more in-tune with my inner guidance.
- Mindfulness can help us hear and feel our intuition more, so that we become more inspired to know the calling of our soul and what activities or directions will benefit us.
- Mindfulness can help us make peace with fear and learn to see emotions as simply a passing experience – not good or bad, simply feelings arising and leaving.
- Mindfulness can help us accept our physical appearance and as we do we will either accept rosacea, or discover a physical solution, or it may just clear up.
Questions To Ask Yourself
Overall, if you suffer from acne rosacea consider the following questions:
2. Have you had times when the rosacea improved? What was taking place in your life at the time?
3. Could there be shame hidden by other distractions in your life and are you ready to make peace with ‘what is’ through becoming more mindful?
The Mindful Way Through Depression (great for anyone – not just those experiencing depression or anxiety).
And if you want to learn more right now via videos I recommend this playlist on mindful meditation and this video on what is mindfulness?You may also get a lot out of the book ‘The Gifts of Imperfection By Brene Brown’
Let me know your thoughts.