Sovereign Solitude – Alone – Lonely or Accessing Deeper Inner Rewards?

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I spend most days alone. 

With the exception of sharing a home with my friend Mike, at most 5 days of those I am walking in nature, being simply with myself, the birds, bees and Mother Earth.

Many days it is a wonderous experience, exploring, enjoying nature, animals and all the creatures that walk or fly on my path.  Occastionally, I have a very strong inner response, that of aching loneliness.

While I understand there is a difference between being lonely (which is a state of mind) and being alone which is me simply walking.   I came to the conclusion it is my human personality, mind that defines what state of being I am experiencing.

I imagine loneliness would not exist if we did not have a way of looking at our worlds and lives through eyes of comparison.  And yet also if we did not have comparison, or desires for difference, we would not be human.

A good friend sent me a channelled message today, something I tend not to read anymore, but this message really made sense to me in my walks of solitude and aloneness.

Channelled by someone called Tyberon a short segment said this:

Solitude is intended to be a period of sublime reverence of self. Your life and your experience in this plane is your own creation, your own living tapestry, woven by your individual belief. Within solitude, the soul is prompted into self-review, and opportunity is given to dive deeply into the deep waters that flow within you. To swim in the ocean of SELF, and in so doing rediscover the love within, to learn what a brilliant spark of God you truly are.

Relationships are a method of reflecting the affectivity of your belief system, and giving you feedback on what, simply stated, is working, and what is not. Detachment requires the individual to explore the self, to reacquaint with the inner horizon, and this facilitates and necessitates sovereignty. Sovereignty is the prepotency of Mastership.
A relationship of two sovereign nondependent humans has greater balance, greater creativity, and greater longevity than a pairing of two beings co-dependent on one another. Do you understand?

 I know, I have a way to walk to embrace my own solitude right now. 

So, while my mind sometimes still shouts; “get out of the alone time and fill it with people and busyness” I recognise my mind is simply wanting control back.  Being on my own, without distractions, just birds singing, silence, beauty, I am walking with me, source energy, life force. And within my walks, coming face to face to what many people fear, being alone.

From the same channelling:

It is the very sense of resulting loneliness that so often feels bittersweet and hollow, that compels you to seek the rich ocean of wisdom available to you in rediscovering the vast solace within  your own divinity.

Perhaps, indeed, I am not just walking with me, but I am walking within me and like any new territories it will feel different and scary to begin with. 

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Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.

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  1. April 21, 2011 / 12:45 am

    Thank you for following my Oneness blog. You have some truth in your writings. Have you read "The Present" at Check it out.

  2. April 21, 2011 / 4:35 pm

    Hi DC, no I haven't but will check it out later, thanks for sharing 🙂

  3. May 29, 2011 / 2:40 pm

    I'm loving reading all your blog posts. I have been spending a lot of time alone recently, and I also think that some of my friendships are changing or about to change, and that I will make some new friends in the next few months. But this is a good reminder to embrace solitude and connect with Source!

  4. May 29, 2011 / 5:12 pm

    Thanks Andy, my friendships have changed dramatically. I have gone from having lots of friends when I lived up north to having 2 friends haha! one I live with and the other I see probably once every 6 weeks. I actually find it amusing now, I used to feel kinda depressed by it. I must have set myself up to learn a lot through aloneness. Hugs x

  5. Derek
    August 22, 2021 / 4:12 pm

    Hi Kelly came across your site , whilst looking for and at information associated with the Stand in the Park ” movement “.

    I have / had quite polarised views that were at some variance to your own before I devoured almost all of your blogs , I am not so certain now as I was , it has brought a measure of calm into my life that was missing previously , so a genuine thank you from myself , I will keep you bookmarked as one swallow etc , I suspect that it is far too easy for me to revert to the dark place I have been in for much of these past 18 months , likely much longer than that , just hadn’t been aware , I will read you again at times to remind myself that it doesn’t always have to be like this.

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