Overcoming My Fear Of Public Speaking


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Last night I attended a beginners belly dancing class in Cheltenham led by a wonderful teacher called Ann Blagdon

I was a bit nervous as I hadn’t had a great experience with a belly dancing teacher in Gloucester. So I decided to start again as I had enjoyed a taster session with Ann at a natural health show in Cheltenham and I loved her teaching methods, her down to earth ways and her honesty and cheerful nature. 

At the beginning of the class Ann asked us all to introduce ourselves to the group, this is something when in groups has brought up intense fear in me, being put on the spot was a phobia. 

What do I say? Everyone’s looking at me? Aargh! What a nightmare I thought. 

Last night I reached a turning point.

In February I am attending a speaking circle at Hawkwood College in Stroud. I attended a speaking circle a few years back when the phobia was so intense, even meetings around a table with a small number of people (3 even!) put me into a state of shock, so I arranged a speaking circle. 

It was very liberating and based on the speaking circles taught by Lee Glickstein 

I highly recommend his book (see below for further info.) if your fear is as debilitating as mine. This speaking circle in February equally scares me, but feels so perfect for me right now. 

What I like about ‘speaking circles’ is you can stand up in front of the small audience and not say anything. You can be with the fears, look at the audience, you can cry, scream, talk, do all of these, it is all about accessing our extreme vulnerability when being with an audience, allowing ourselves to be whoever we are.

The audience in speaking circles in turn receives you lovingly. As part of the guidelines you are asked to look with a soft gaze. Being in the audience is as important as standing up in front of the audience. Once the speaker has finished you give them a round of applause, the speaker has to fully receive the whole applause, no running off the stage, and then the audience gives feedback.

However, no negative feedback is allowed, only positive, part of the audiences role is to find something positive about what the speaker did or did not say. In my first speaking circle someone gave me feedback saying they honoured and admired the way I had decided to say nothing in one of the rounds I went up for, this was such loving praise and needed for the inner child inside me.

The Importance of Security in Communication

Security is a fundamental aspect of communication. It’s the reason why moments of silence make us feel uneasy, why we dread walking onto a stage unprepared, and why we avoid awkward pauses in conversations. Imagine walking onto a stage or in front of an audience without a script, tapping into your spontaneous thoughts and expressing yourself freely. Comedians like Billy Connolly are great examples of this kind of unbridled creativity. Who knows where this kind of approach could take you? If you’re looking to overcome your fear of public speaking, consider attending a speaking circle. You can also find teleclasses online, such as those offered by Lee Glicksteins on the Speaking Circle website. Additionally, you can check out his book, “Be Heard Now!: Tap into Your Inner Speaker and Communicate with Ease.”

In the meantime something I have been using for many fears and things I want to change in my life is EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE. You can download a free manual on how to do it here www.emofree.com there are also many many case studies to read on the results on this amazing easy technique.

Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.

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  1. January 11, 2007 / 11:27 pm

    Good for you honey – and wooo to the symbolic dreams – I love those so much! Haven’t had any for a while though I have no doubt I’ll start getting them soon with my final reiki attunement ;o)

  2. January 12, 2007 / 6:09 pm

    Yeah I havent had any in a while my dreamstate is more irregular now. I remember when I used to look so forward to sleeping for all the amazing dreams I used to have I have since realised my dreams have since reduced because my waking life is becoming as exciting and fun as my dreaming life so im no longer creating the escape for myself. Interesting!
    Enjoy your Master Attunement wowser indeed!!

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