In all my experiences and journey through the subject of mindfulness and Advaita, I naively thought I could keep HOPE. I realised how conditioned I was to hope. I have hoped all my life; I was hoping more than I was aware of until now. I thought if I just stopped trying to mistakenly ‘create my reality’, that I was fully present, in the now. I was wrong. HOPE was…
View PostWe are told to be authentic, to be who we really are, but how many of us truly ‘own’ who we are? Maybe you’re single, walking down the street and you see a couple holding hands and laughing and smiling and in that instant you reach out to that couple, yearning to have what they have, in essence to be who they are. You may also be feeling lonely,…
View PostWe all need a bit of encouragement in life and many of us are brought up into a life where we have no vocabulary for kindness. We may have been abused, bullied, neglected as children, or we may have been domestically abused in our adult lives. All of these factors can leave us with no idea about how to have compassion for self, or to even think kinder thoughts. And…
View PostCan you feel the beauty in moving from joy to sadness? Or is being positive more important to you? What if I told you that focusing ‘only’ on the positive keeps you stuck? I’ve been awake on my spiritual path since 1999, but I went through many cycles in that time. For the first 7 years or more I was enthused by exciting possibilities in life that I had never…
View PostWe are told time and time again: “You must love yourself”. And yet when we are feeling less loving towards others, it feels like an impossible thing to do. Instead why not… Love Yourself For NOT Loving Can you love yourself for not loving someone or not liking someone? It seems to go against the grain of so many spiritual teachings. We are taught to be compassionate and…
View PostFlaws Can Be Beautiful If We See The Jewels In The Mire How do you feel about your flaws? Those aspects of your personality that you are probably not too fond of? What if I told you that the changes you desire and the peace that you want, depend on those flaws getting your full acceptance and attention? Sometimes in life we are just going through the motions.…
View PostThe Simple Things Can Make A Frugal Christmas A Real Special Time As someone who currently is on a small budget at Christmas, I know what it’s like to feel poor at Christmas. This feeling changed this year. I understand how many people feel, who have little or nothing (financially speaking), and how this can bring up feelings of longing, envy, jealousy and resentment, but it doesn’t have to always…
View PostThis is a follow up to ‘Saying Goodbye To People Pleasing’ HERE I have come to the conclusion that being on a journey of self-awareness or spirituality can breed a unsavoury side to how we deal with ourselves. Many people view weaknesses or imperfections as un-spiritual. I imagine there are heck of a lot of people hiding behind a spiritual façade where on the surface everything appears ‘perfect’, where the face the…
View PostThis is a follow up to Loving Pinocchio I am currently aged 37, and from the age of 6, I began to ‘people please’. This all began because of my experience with the headmistress (she told me that I had embarrassed the whole school because I did not put my flowers in the correct place in a school production). People pleasing has been a way of life for…
View PostThere comes a time in your life where you acknowledge a few home truths about yourself. When the monkey mind rattles a few re-occurring thoughts at you and you begin to question why you believe those thoughts. A big loud thought that likes to rattle on inside my mind is ‘You are such a fake!’ I guess it has not been until I began practising mindfulness that it became so…
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