Why Am I Afraid To Be Happy?

Do you ever wonder why life satisfaction feels hard for you? Or do you find that when things are going great you are waiting for something bad to happen? Expecting the worst? Worrying about what’s next on the horizon? It might seem strange but many people think this way, not realising that there is an unconscious desire to feel safe in not being at ease with life. Imagine this experience:…

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How To Help A Person Grieving

In September 2022 someone I loved deeply passed away after a rapid onslaught with cancer. On May 1st 2023 my best friend who I have been living with for 20 years passed away from sepsis and cancer. Both losses came rapidly, both people I physically cared for near the end of their lives. JUMP TO BULLET POINT LIST OF WHAT TO DO   In June 2023 I came to some…

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Why Won’t My Partner Have Sex With Me?

As a guy, how can I rekindle the sex my partner and I used to have? Written by Michael Doherty the author of the ‘I Ching: A Unique Intepretation of The I Ching‘ As men, how can we support our partners who have been through difficult stuff and don’t enjoy sex anymore? It can be uncomfortable, even painful for them. What sort of difficult stuff? It could be: sexual abuse.…

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How To Overcome The Anti Climax Of New Year

  New Year often kicks off with a blast of new energy, fireworks and a huge goodbye to the previous year. Many people are often relieved that the old year is over and that they can make a fresh start. Goal-setting starts, visions-boards made, high expectations for success in the coming year. We schedule, plan, day-dream, envision the coming days, and then we hit an inner road bump, an anti-climax.…

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10 Ways To Have A Stress-Free Christmas

So the Christmas season is heating up, the stores are full to brimming with gifts and sales, your little ones are tugging at your heartstrings to provide for them the perfect day and perhaps you’re losing your head a little and the stress is setting in. Being mindful at Christmas can take a little more practice than at other times of the year. We are encouraged and trained by society…

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DESIRE – What If What You Want Is Wrong?

Are you frustrated by lack in your life? Are those things you really want just not happening? It’s easy to get attached to a specific outcome to make us happy. We’re surrounded by affluence in the West and encouraged to pin all our hopes and dreams on the outer world. While we might believe that happiness lies within, inwardly many of us may ‘secretly’ hope for circumstances to change in…

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How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost

No one can fill the void in your heart, only love does this. Not love from outside, but love from within. In my past, I was a needy, attached, jealous lover. I was in a state of perpetual ‘not good enough’ and so I attracted lovers who did not value me for who I was. I attracted lovers who reinforced my feelings of not deserving in my life. I lived…

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The Freedom Road

“…You shall be free indeed when your days are not without a care nor your nights without a want and grief, but rather when these things girdle your life and yet you rise above them naked and unbound…”                                               ~ Kahil Gibran, The Prophet CLICK TO TWEET I…

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Review : Moving From Emptiness – The Life and Art of a Zen Dude

After seeing the trailer for this documentary/movie I was keen to see more. I fell in love with Alok Hsu Kwang-han as I watched, I wanted a Zen art class near me, I wanted the freedom to create from presence, from whatever wants to be expressed through my paint brush. Alok Hsu Kwang-han, a Zen calligraphic painter, takes the viewer on a journey through his history, his life story, how…

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Z Is For ZEN

Yippee!! Today is the last day of the challenge and 26 posts later. I am very pleased that I got this far and did not miss one day and was not even a day late. So today, ZEN. What is Zen? Zen is a school of Mahayana Buddhism that developed in China during the Tang dynasty as Chán. From China, Zen spread south to Vietnam, northeast to Korea and east…

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