Anxiety – Allowing Vulnerability

  “Anxiety should never be viewed as an inherent weakness but rather an out-of-control strength. It takes tremendous strength to never act out rage; to take that energy, to repress it inwardly where it becomes anxiety – so as to not harm anyone else.” ~ Steve Ray Ozanich For the longest time I suffered in silence with intense anxiety. I hid this experience from everyone but close family. Of my…

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Do You ‘OWN’ Who You Are?

We are told to be authentic, to be who we really are, but how many of us truly ‘own’ who we are? Maybe you’re single, walking down the street and you see a couple holding hands and laughing and smiling and in that instant you reach out to that couple, yearning to have what they have, in essence to be who they are. You may also be feeling lonely, and…

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Accepting Your Flaws – Gateway To Change

Flaws Can Be Beautiful If We See The Jewels In The Mire How do you feel about your flaws?    Those aspects of your personality that you are probably not too fond of?    What if I told you that the changes you desire and the peace that you want, depend on those flaws getting your full acceptance and attention?   Sometimes in life we are just going through the…

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Flowing With Change – Dropping Attachment To Outcomes

  Nature Flows With The Changes And Experiences Life Gracefully – We Can Do The Same One thing I have discovered over the past few years is the importance of being flexible. Not only with the day-to-day changes that can take place, but life goals, dreams and our desires in life. I sometimes feel that life gives you unfulfilled desires to encourage you to learn to bend more, to be…

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Feeling Poor At Christmas?

  The Simple Things Can Make A Frugal Christmas A Real Special Time As someone who currently is on a small budget at Christmas, I know what it’s like to feel poor at Christmas. This feeling changed this year. I understand how many people feel, who have little or nothing (financially speaking), and how this can bring up feelings of longing, envy, jealousy and resentment, but it doesn’t have to…

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Being Human Part 4 : Being Authentic – Is It Truly Possible?

Is It Possible To Show Our True Colours At All Times? This topic came up recently between my friend and me and it made me think. What is authenticity and can we always be truly authentic? I think I mentioned in another blog post recently how some of my TV role models are the characters Phoebe from ‘Friends’ and Miranda from UK TV sitcom ‘Miranda’, both honest, authentic, always real,…

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Getting Over Our Fears Of Things In Nature

*This is a follow up post to ‘ Shadow Totems’ HERE It is clear to say that a few years ago I used to be an insectiphobe. Creepy crawlies creeped me out. Bee and wasps terrified me, cockroaches still do and alien looking creatures gave me chills. Thankfully most of that has changed as I began to realise the things we fear have a lot to teach us. Many fears…

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Attached To Feeling Good

Many ‘spiritual’ teachings encourage positive thinking, yet by doing so they are resisting the entirety of our human experience. The teachings can often be so generalised that they do not take into account an individual’s personal history, conditioning and much more. What we need is balance, and to not be attached to feeling joyful or blissed-up and happy. In Buddhism it is said non-attachment to everything is the key to…

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Career Ladders Don’t Need To Be Climbed By Everyone

Since an early age I had a wide range of ideas about what I would like to experience in life, but these never stayed the same, they changed and evolved as I changed. Now in my late thirties, I am surrendering to the fact that a career is not for everybody. A few nights ago I had a long drawn-out dream. I dreamt that to get anywhere in the world…

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How To Be Honest With Your Pain – In An Empowering Way

Yes, this is how we’re meant to be     This is a guest post by the author Andy Bowker from Andy’s Corner How many of us have been hiding emotional pain for a long time? Have you? Well, you’re certainly not alone. It seems to be one of the hidden values of our culture. It’s almost an unwritten rule that when someone asks you the question ‘How are you?’,…

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