Maybe You’re Not A Good Person?

  “What you run from you run into” ~ Nikita Tweet This!It can be hard to acknowledge and accept that you’re not a ‘good’ person. I pride myself on being a ‘good’ person, thinking if I haven’t got what everyone else has (home of my own, regular income, relationship, family, confidence) at least I’m a ‘good’ person. When you’ve been carrying such a heavy ‘failure’ story for so long, to be…

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U Is For UNCERTAINTY

No-thing is certain, the only certainty we have is life itself. Life is beyond all form, all shape or sense of control, it has no limits, it has no edges, it is like the sky itself. “He took his hands off the oars and pulled in the mooring rope. If I make a couple of loops, he thought, I can strap the axe on to my back.  He had a…

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F is for FREEDOM

Many people may have vivid feelings of freedom as a child, me? Not so much. I remember playing and having fun as a young child, but I was also racked with this feeling of physical restriction, like I was held back by something. I used to walk with a bent back, never held my head high because of life experiences early on and being picked on for being tall. Freedom…

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How To Embrace Uncertainty

Life is one big uncertainty. No-one can go through life without experiencing uncertainty. From life changes like jobs ending, to people dying, to relationships changing, to the general uncertainty of not knowing what direction to take in life, being human comes with the experience of uncertainty. Now the difference between those who embrace it and those that don’t, shows in the coping mechanisms of those who are unwilling to embrace…

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Anxiety – Allowing Vulnerability

“Anxiety should never be viewed as an inherent weakness but rather an out-of-control strength. It takes tremendous strength to never act out rage; to take that energy, to repress it inwardly where it becomes anxiety – so as to not harm anyone else.” ~ Steve Ray Ozanich For the longest time I suffered in silence with intense anxiety. I hid this experience from everyone but close family. Of my friends…

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Do You ‘OWN’ Who You Are?

  We are told to be authentic, to be who we really are, but how many of us truly ‘own’ who we are? Maybe you’re single, walking down the street and you see a couple holding hands and laughing and smiling and in that instant you reach out to that couple, yearning to have what they have, in essence to be who they are. You may also be feeling lonely,…

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Accepting Your Flaws – Gateway To Change

Flaws Can Be Beautiful If We See The Jewels In The Mire How do you feel about your flaws?   Those aspects of your personality that you are probably not too fond of?    What if I told you that the changes you desire and the peace that you want, depend on those flaws getting your full acceptance and attention?   Sometimes in life we are just going through the motions.…

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Flowing With Change – Dropping Attachment To Outcomes

  Nature Flows With The Changes And Experiences Life Gracefully – We Can Do The Same One thing I have discovered over the past few years is the importance of being flexible. Not only with the day-to-day changes that can take place, but life goals, dreams and our desires in life. I sometimes feel that life gives you unfulfilled desires to encourage you to learn to bend more, to be…

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Feeling Poor At Christmas?

The Simple Things Can Make A Frugal Christmas A Real Special Time As someone who currently is on a small budget at Christmas, I know what it’s like to feel poor at Christmas. This feeling changed this year. I understand how many people feel, who have little or nothing (financially speaking), and how this can bring up feelings of longing, envy, jealousy and resentment, but it doesn’t have to always…

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Being Human Part 4 : Being Authentic – Is It Truly Possible?

The author reflects on whether showing our authentic selves at all times is feasible or welcome. Drawing from personal experiences, they suggest that being authentic isn’t just about constant honesty, but knowing when to adapt or ‘shape-shift’ for social harmony. They confront the idea that authenticity must always be kind or wise, instead embracing the full spectrum of their personality, including flaws. The key, they find, is self-acceptance and awareness, which allows for true authenticity and personal growth.

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