Being Authentic : Give Yourself Permission To Be Bad

As a recovering people-pleaser and recovering co-dependent person, it came as a shock to realise that to overcome and move forward beyond these patterns, I have to give myself permission to be bad. What does this mean? Most of us are programmed early on that to be a ‘good’ person, we need to be or do X,Y,Z. Your particular flavour of X, Y, and Z could be to be a…

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Are You Scared To Be Authentic?

The deeper we go into inner child work and look at the shadow, the more layers appear to be brought into the light. As a recovering people-pleaser, I’ve spent most of my life being whatever was needed ‘for other people’. Why did I do this? Anything we do that is against our natural flow is often to keep us safe. We have many behaviours we may engage in that protect…

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How To Overcome The Anti Climax Of New Year

  New Year often kicks off with a blast of new energy, fireworks and a huge goodbye to the previous year. Many people are often relieved that the old year is over and that they can make a fresh start. Goal-setting starts, visions-boards made, high expectations for success in the coming year. We schedule, plan, day-dream, envision the coming days, and then we hit an inner road bump, an anti-climax.…

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On Being Raw, Authentic, Controversial And Challenging

After grappling with something this week I recognised that it is time to be proud of my uniqueness. I browse around countless other sites on-line, blogs, websites, You Tube channels, Facebook pages etc etc.. and I sit and wonder: ‘Why do they have so many followers? What do they do that I do not?’ And so it began, a thought process. Mike helped me understand some of it this morning. He said when…

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The Pendulum Swings : Accepting & Appreciating Your ‘Negative’ Traits

Are you bossy? Controlling? Manipulative? Arrogant? Patronising? Sarcastic? Naughty? Rebellious?..   When you beat yourself up for these qualities did you know that you may be imposing limits on who you are?   Have you considered that certain personality traits seen as flaws or weaknesses simply require your loving acceptance? Have you ever met a person who doesn’t give a damn what anybody else thinks of them? ‘Flaws’ and all?…

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Looking Deeper Than Outward Appearances

“…If you penetrate to the core of your existence you can see through the outer show of others. By presenting yourself as you really are, you can make them aware of the process you have been through, so they no longer have to hide themselves from you.”    Changing Line 6 – The IChing – Frits Blok   Last night I had some thoughts show up about trust and how…

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Welcome Fear

A teacher once said to me when I was having an anxiety attack, say to yourself: “Welcome Fear”. She also went on to say: “God loves your fear, your anxiety, all of who you are.  Nothing is not welcome with God.” Yesterday I posted a blog about my trip to the dentist’s chair and I awoke this morning with this feeling of terror arising.  Not so much to do with…

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Question Your Guru!

One of the things many people neglect to do on the spiritual path is to question spiritual teachers. It’s easy not to when they are marketing teachings in the way sales pitches have been sold onto people for years. They fire us up, raise the passion and the excitement in us, and most of these teachers; “FUEL our DESIRE!”   The emphasis is placed on attaining the ‘desire’ and much…

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Writer’s Stage Fright

I often wonder how does a writer write for a publisher? How do they go beyond the pressure of writing for an audience and write for themselves again? To have deadlines placed on them, I cannot see how this is an environment that allows creative juices to flow. As I feel like a fledgling writer, I sometimes place the perfectionist pressure on myself also. I Am A Writer In 2007…

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Revealing The Authentic Face

  Painted Face -Taken From Jamie Sams Sacred Path Cards: The Painted Face speaks of self-expression. It tells you to use your creativity in order to express your feelings, your talents, your desires. Expressing who and what you are at any given moment is healing as well as productive. As you change and grow you may feel the need to alter the way in which others perceive you. Changing your…

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