Do You NEED What You Want?

It feels like a kick in the teeth when someone says you can’t have what you want – doesn’t it? I get this. I was led to believe some time ago that ‘anything is possible’, ‘you can have anything you want’ in life, but then my critical thinking mind questioned this, because can we really? Take for example, 100 actors all working in Hollywood in cafés and gas stations, hoping…

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When People in Pain Lash Out

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean Episode 70 – Podcast Transcript Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 70. Today I’m going to talk about how when we finally find our voices, share who we really are, we may come across people in pain who may lash out at us. This year I finally started to…

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Why ‘Not Caring’ Can Be Really Weird in The Beginning

A long time ago in my childhood, I was taught that the most important thing to do in relationship to other people, was to please them. I was shown that what other people thought of me truly mattered and so for 39+ years I lived as a shell of myself, to prove myself to the world. While others were more outspoken, I kept my opinion and thoughts to myself and…

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Is Your Focus On The Past Or Future Exhausting Your Now?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 69 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 69. Today I’m going to talk about how we drain our life away by focusing on the illusion of the mind. A few years ago, I was lost in wishful thinking, focused on an alternative reality to what…

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Drop the Fantasy and Find Joy in the Reality

Sometimes, we need to let go of the fantasy and find fulfilment in our reality. ~ Kelly Martin We can all reminisce about the ‘good old days’, be it in life as a whole or in the relationships we think we had. It can be so easy to get lost in thinking that we had it better back then or by thinking that by fantasising about a different reality to…

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Is Your Painful Addiction To Struggle Holding You Back?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 68 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks, I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 68. Today I’m going to talk about an addiction to struggle. Something I have spoken about a little bit in previous podcasts, but also something I need to talk about more because I think that many of us…

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How To Remain Calm In The Midst Of Chaos

Have you seen the state of the world right now? If you haven’t, you may have been living in a bubble, which is lovely, but not something we can stay in forever. One look at Twitter (for example), looking at trending topics, you can see how enraged many people are. The news media is of course (as it always does!) fuelling the conflict between people, because many news outlets have…

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Why Is It So Hard To Share My Mental Health Struggle?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 67 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks, I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 67. Today I’m going to talk all about accepting our mental health issues. A listener who I will call Jackie (this is not their real name), brought a question to me about mental health. Jackie said: Why are…

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When It’s Time to Stop the Blame Game

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”― Byron Katie Relationships can be tough, romantic, business, political, countries or otherwise. We have been taught to believe an ‘ideal’ by social conditioning, movies, storybooks and gender roles in society. We have been given the idea that a relationship will make us…

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Are You Scared to Accept Your Wounds?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean Episode 66 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks, this is episode 66. I’m your host Kelly Martin. To begin this episode, I want to say a huge thank you to those listeners who contacted me after I asked for feedback on episode 65 ‘What If Your Inability to Receive Is From Past Trauma’. As you…

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