Do You Always Expect to Be Disappointed?

Does it feel like your life has been full of unfulfilled hope or expectations?  I know mine has. I think that in many ways we try to cover up disappointments and brush them away or numb them through making more effort, working too hard, using food, drugs or other substances to hide the ache where disappointment lies, but it doesn’t work long term. The biggest problem with disappointment is that… View Post

Who Am I When I’m Not Helping People?

Many years ago, I used to have plenty of co-dependent relationships. I always wore the hat of ‘helper’, ‘rescuer’ or ‘guide’ and because of this I attracted people who saw themselves as victims, because without victim personalities we helpers have no-one to help. I understood this – that I only valued myself through the feedback I got from helping others. I also noticed that after a while I grew tired… View Post

Why Our Need to Be Loved Is A Longing for Home

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 84 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 84. This week I am going to talk about love, because this podcast is going out the week of Valentine’s Day and as someone who is single and who has had my fair share of loss and grief… View Post

When You Need to Free Others from Responsibility

“Women are not helpless and dependent like little kittens; they have the courage and strength to roar like lions. They are not candles that need to be lit by someone else; they are the self-effulgent sun.” ~ Mother Amma Sometimes in life we allow ourselves to be carried. This is not just a female experience but can be a male experience too. Sometimes the burden of life and suffering can… View Post

How To Find Your Lost Passion

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 83 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 83. This week I am going to talk about passion and wanting, and how do we find our lost passions? Okay, so my passion has been null and void probably since June 2019 when I made the decision… View Post

Why When You Accept Your Flaws You Are Free

When we judge our flaws to be wrong, we suffer. If we feel that our anger, our fear, our judgements, our resentment are wrong, we are triggered by others who point fingers our way. One thing I have learned over the past few years is to make peace with what I used to think were bad qualities or emotions within me. If someone attacked me and criticised my flaws I… View Post

Ho’oponopono – How To Heal and Love Your Life

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 82 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 82. This week I am going to talk about Ho’oponopono. I have written about it in the past on my blog, but I wanted to do more of an exploratory update and to offer ways of working with… View Post

Is It Time You Practised Saying ‘Yes’?

Is it time you began to practice saying ‘Yes’ to your reality? Change happens, but sometimes we resist change so much that we do everything in our power to hold on to the known, to the certainty, to the secure aspects of our lives. Yet eventually, all this trying to stop the flow of change, catches up with us and we have no choice but to face it. The question… View Post

When Commitment Knocks at The Door

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 81 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 81. This week I have been experiencing some major physical symptoms from an advanced form of chiropractic work. I’ve been having back issues for a long time; I didn’t realise how long until I started to see that… View Post