Sitting here on a humid June afternoon, I feel a furious rage and anger rising inside of me. I have spent a lot of time feeling both a mixture of relief, frustration and deep sadness for a few weeks now. However, now the anger of the grief cycle has arrived. Letting a big dream go after you have worked so hard on it is really hard, even more so when…
View PostSo in late 2018 I received the phone-call no daughter wants to hear, that my mum received a diagnosis that she had ovarian cancer. I was shocked, burst into tears and instantly started googling cancer, the side-effects and the side-effects of chemotherapy which was the route she eventually had to go down. In October 2018 she had her first operation where she had a full hysterectomy and once they analysed…
View Post“Michelle Pfeiffer had been nominated for three Academy Awards and six Golden Globe awards when she described her self-doubts in an interview in 2002. When asked how she had developed her gifts, Pfeiffer responded, “I still think people will find out that I’m really not very talented. I’m really not very good. It’s all been a big sham.” Kate Winslet, too, has been frank about doubting her talents. “Sometimes I…
View PostWhile there are many stigmas around mental health issues, I think some of those deep dark underbelly feelings we may have during a heavy depressive episode are not only shoved under the carpet, but seen as taboo to acknowledge or talk about. For me that is the feeling of resentment born from bitterness, which in turn is born from repressed anger. When life has lost its sweetness; when life has…
View PostThe sun is shining on this spring day in my local home area, the birds are singing, the sky is blue. Society may say ‘Be grateful’ or ‘You should be happy, what a blessed day!’ but mental health issues are not like that. Mental health issues don’t care whether the sky is blue or the sun is shining. Mental health issues don’t care if you have won the lottery or…
View PostI’ve been on this path for a long time, the self-acceptance path. I turn 43 this year and before the year 2000 I was pretty much asleep, most of the time. I had very low self-esteem; I had no concept of self-love, self-care or self-compassion. Instead I adopted the coping mechanisms of over-eating and drinking alcohol. I really didn’t like myself, but I had no awareness that I didn’t like…
View PostI’ve written about money issues many times in this blog, how to recognise where we may be stuck and how we may have secondary benefits to why we do not allow financial abundance into our lives. Sometimes money problems are a deeper block and barrier to change than it is for other people. We unravel bit by bit what our beliefs are and how they are holding us back and…
View PostYou were never broken. Yes, life may have felt like it broke you, but the very fact that you are still breathing, reading this, choosing life, means it never broke you. Life can be really hard at times. I know this only too well. We can get into a place inside our minds where we just think ‘What’s the point? Why bother?’ It can feel like life is crushing us…
View PostYou Should Be Grateful! You must be thankful! You should be grateful. You need to be grateful for what you’ve got to get more…and so the list of must-do’s goes on, BUT is it true? I followed many ‘positive thinking’ teachers for a very long time and also got on the whole bandwagon of ‘creating your reality’ and the ‘law of attraction’ ‘Abraham Hicks’ railroad and I learned many things…
View PostFor anyone who has suffered from depression, anxiety, PTSD and more, those trite memes or messages we see on the internet for improving mental health are often flooded with overly simplified bullshit that simply doesn’t cut it when you are down in the deep darkness of a manic episode or when you’re avoiding the world due to social anxiety. But there are ways to improve mental health even during the…
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