When It’s Time to Stop the Blame Game

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”― Byron Katie Relationships can be tough, romantic, business, political, countries or otherwise. We have been taught to believe an ‘ideal’ by social conditioning, movies, storybooks and gender roles in society. We have been given the idea that a relationship will make us…

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Why Your Happy-Ever-After Is Ruining Your Love Life

Like many women I was taught all about fairy tales in love. I was brought up on storybooks where the Prince rescued the fair maiden and Disney Movies where Cinderella lived a hard life and was given the gift of her happy-ever-after once she was rescued and fell in love with the Prince. There’s nothing new to this story. Most of us have this brainwashing, men included. But what matters…

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Are You Afraid To Be Alone?

From PODCAST: Now, what Osho said was…. This has been said again and again, down through the ages. All the religious people have been saying this. We come alone into this world. We go alone. All togetherness is illusory. The very idea of togetherness arises because we are alone. And the aloneness hurts We want to drown our aloneness in relationship That’s why we become so much involved in love.…

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Are You Addicted To Helping People?

When you’ve been the underdog, the downtrodden, the black sheep, the alienated one it can be easy to get stuck in the trap of helping other people to the detriment of your own wellbeing. When I was in my earlier years of my spiritual journey, I used to feel it was not only my duty, but my path to help other people and while I know I am here to…

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Why A Lack Of Boundaries Can Be Painful and Messy

Guilt Trips and Manipulation The reason we can feel angry at other people sometimes can be because we have not set good boundaries with them. We are not angry at them, but with ourselves. Boundaries for people-pleasers can be a real challenge, especially if you have lived most of your life trying to please other people or from an early age you were led to believe you were responsible for…

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How To Open To Love After Pain

This post ‘How To Open To Love After Pain’ is in collaboration with Orion’s Method. The content and opinions expressed below are that of kellymartinspeaks.co.uk Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other. ― Russ von Hoelscher I’ve probably been single longer than the average woman, but I also spent…

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5 Powerful Life Lessons I Learned In 2017

2017, the year incredible things happened in the world both good and bad. A time when people were divided, hate reigned, love rose up and women owned their powerful voices. Numerologically, 2017 was a number 1, a time of change, new beginnings, independence and becoming who you are. This year was phenomenal. I had so many new experiences, so much change, so many new beginnings and lots of goodbyes and…

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How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost

How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost No one can fill the void in your heart, only love does this. Not love from outside, but love from within. In my past, I was a needy, attached, jealous lover. I was in a state of perpetual ‘not good enough’ and so I attracted lovers who did not value me for who I was. I attracted lovers who reinforced my feelings of…

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Are You Ready For Love? Self-love and Vulnerability

Are You Ready For Love? Self-love and Vulnerability It’s funny, I am not normally bothered about Valentine’s Day. I have spent a few years now celebrating ‘Quirky Alone Day’, a day dedicated to singles who feel empowered being single, but also to couples who want a different way to celebrate this often very commercial time of the year. Yet as I scrolled Facebook, I saw competitions to enter and the…

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From Broken Heart to Whole Heart

From Broken Heart to Whole Heart After I split from my last partner I cried a river. It came as a complete surprise to me as logically the relationship had only lasted 3 months and I have been in much longer ones, but I know I was a different person this time. Previous heartbreak occurred 15+ years ago because I had consciously chosen to be single for some time. In…

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