Are You Addicted To Helping People?

When you’ve been the underdog, the downtrodden, the black sheep, the alienated one it can be easy to get stuck in the trap of helping other people to the detriment of your own wellbeing. When I was in my earlier years of my spiritual journey, I used to feel it…

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Why A Lack Of Boundaries Can Be Painful and Messy

Guilt Trips and Manipulation The reason we can feel angry at other people sometimes can be because we have not set good boundaries with them. We are not angry at them, but with ourselves. Boundaries for people-pleasers can be a real challenge, especially if you have lived most of your…

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How To Open To Love After Pain

This post ‘How To Open To Love After Pain’ is sponsored by Orion’s Method. The content and opinions expressed below are that of kellymartinspeaks.co.uk Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that…

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5 Powerful Life Lessons I Learned In 2017

5 Powerful Life Lessons I Learned In 2017 2017, the year incredible things happened in the world both good and bad. A time when people were divided, hate reigned, love rose up and women owned their powerful voices. Numerologically, 2017 was a number 1, a time of change, new beginnings,…

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How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost

How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost No one can fill the void in your heart, only love does this. Not love from outside, but love from within. In my past, I was a needy, attached, jealous lover. I was in a state of perpetual ‘not good enough’ and so…

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Are You Ready For Love? Self-love and Vulnerability

Are You Ready For Love? Self-love and Vulnerability It’s funny, I am not normally bothered about Valentine’s Day. I have spent a few years now celebrating ‘Quirky Alone Day’, a day dedicated to singles who feel empowered being single, but also to couples who want a different way to celebrate…

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From Broken Heart to Whole Heart

From Broken Heart to Whole Heart After I split from my last partner I cried a river. It came as a complete surprise to me as logically the relationship had only lasted 3 months and I have been in much longer ones, but I know I was a different person…

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Ignoring Red Flags For Love

Ignoring Red Flags For Love I hold my hands up, I ignored red flags to experience my first fall into love, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I emerged into love, I embraced love, I felt love, my heart opened and flowered in ways I had never felt before and…

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X Is For XOXO (TOP 10 HUGS and Kisses)

Okay, sooo… as I am coming to the end of this blogging challenge I am cheating today. My theme is feelings and apart from Xenophobic and X’d out I chose something on a list of adjectives and one word was XOXO, totally cheating. XOXO stands for kisses and hugs and totally…

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N Is For Neediness

Neediness, something I used to be the Queen of. I was needy in friendships, needy with partners and in relationships, I was just plain needy. Needless to say neediness can give off a bright shining beacon saying ‘I’m needy, stay away!’ I’m writing this article not to criticise anyone who…

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