On Being A Victim – A Larger Perspective

This morning I had some old drama creep into my mind, and I ran the train of thought until I was in panic mode. I won’t go into details but it really put things into perspective regarding the bigger picture of life.   None of us are victims – we are not powerless to circumstances – we are not dis-empowered by people ‘out there’.   No road is available to us unless…

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Consumerism And The Recession

So how did it get to this? Where people fill gaps where love could be? With the next Iphone, Ipad, designer clothes and labels galore? When did consumerism become the source of well-being people are looking for?   I know many people struggling with this recession and I know it is tough going for many people, but I see it as a huge wake-up call to get our priorities right.…

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Validation – Can We Truly Validate Ourselves?

I am sitting at this computer to help me understand what I need to know right now about this subject of validation. It is not until I started questioning where I am coming from that this subject keeps coming up for me.   When I felt part of the human tribe, an insider, a person who belonged to a group or sector of society, my validation, my reason for being…

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Responsibility: Release Guilt – Release Blame

It is quite easy to blame ourselves when somebody else is hurting or stressed, if we view our actions as causing the person pain in some way. There comes a time when we need to release and let go of the responsibility we may have heaped on our shoulders because of something that happened to someone else.  It is easy to see how our actions have consequences but often, as humans,…

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You Can’t Learn To Be Alone Until You’ve Been Lonely

The sacredness of solitude is so often an overlooked experience to be had in life.  Society is made to pity the lonely or those who live alone. Later in life single people at dinner parties are pitied by married couples with children.  When you hit 30 it’s as if the whole world has gone mad in its desire to have you settled down and married.  Especially as a woman. And…

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Letting The Lonely Go

  I am told to express my feelings.  To let them out.  My writing is what I am all about. With tears streaming down my face,  I find it hard to express this place. Today is my loneliness day.The harsh reality of feelings curdling through my soul.Instead of walking or talking back to a safe placeIt is time to express this feeling, my way. While on good days, days when…

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Goofy, Buck Teeth & Crooked Smiles

  Accepting our humanity, including those parts of us we may consider are flaws is so important for our wellbeing and personal balance. When something in us seems wrong, imperfect or even viewed as ugly it can really place a deep dent on our self-esteem. I used to be called goofy at school, my protruding front teeth was the talking point of the school bullies and the boys in my…

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What Is Beauty? What is ‘Normal’?

I would like to begin to look at my physical self as the new ‘normal’. The media, magazines, television, celebrities, dentists, beauty ‘experts’ share opinions of a smile that is similar to mine needing fixing. The would view my ‘imperfect’ teeth as not nice and not attractive.  I feel after much self introspection I have perfect teeth. I have perfect teeth for me. For me, I am wanted to not only…

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Thriving As An Outsider

Being an outsider is the most rewarding experience of my life. For many years I have tried to fit into a mould.  During school years the mould of my peers, during college the mould of intellectuals, as my spiritual awakening happened – the mould of the spiritual elite. AND for most of the time I was always trying to fit the mould of expectations from my biological family. Always a…

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Divinely Selfish

  Insights on myself are coming in thick and fast right now. Understanding my desires in life and revealing my true face to myself has been an eye opener. Why do any of us want anything in life? I realised my prime reason in life is to feel absolutely excellent! It is not to share, donate to charity, ‘be spiritual’ the overall essence of what I want in my life…

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