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EPISODE 107 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT
Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 107.
So right now it probably feels for many of you listening like the world has turned upside down and inside out. Nothing feels familiar, nothing seems in its right place, nothing is working perhaps the way it once did. In fact, it probably feels more confusing, more uncomfortable than you’ve ever had it before.
This is because the world as we know it is changing on an epic level.
I keep hearing the terms we have to get used to the ‘new normal’ and many people say they hate that term. I don’t think normal is going to be here for quite some time and when we say normal, what do we really mean? We tend to mean comfortable, certain, known and something we are used to.
As I said a little while ago, the world is going through many streams of chaos, many waves of fear, yet within this chaos and fear are great opportunities for change also. In fact for real long lasting change we often have to go through an upside down and inside out world
If everything were still or calm, nothing would change and perhaps as a species, on a huge level many of us have been crying out for change. Maybe we wanted change to be more comfortable, maybe we hoped we would be in control a bit more, but that’s not the case with big change. It comes as a whirlwind or a strongly penetrating current of water that cleans away everything in its path to make way for the new.
Believe it or not, at this time, abundance, creativity and beauty are awakening, but we may not be able to see this side of the topsy-turvy world right now.
Right now, you probably don’t know.
You may not know who you are, what is becoming, how to live at ease.
You may feel incredibly uneasy and uncertain.
Funnily enough I know people who have managed to get back to a weird normal during this climate of change. I am not entirely sure this is the purpose of it. With people meeting with family and friends, going on holiday, all those things that serve as a distraction, at times they still do. It always surprises me because I find this time very unnerving, strange, definitely uncertain and it can feel a challenge to keep my balance, to stay grounded. I feel awkward at times, like I am trying to see in the dark or walk through treacle.
Someone sent me a meme on social media recently and it really explained how 2020 feels. It was of an image of the boy Atreyu from the movie The NeverEnding Story. It was comparing to ideas of 2020. The first was how he felt at the beginning of 2020, riding the luck dragon with great enthusiasm and excitement, flying into 2020 on a wave of fun. The second was the actual experience of 2020 where he was in the darkness with his horse, in the swamp and he was stuck in the swamp.
I can definitely say that at times this is what 2020 feels like to me.
I miss the ease at doing things, the ease at going out shopping, the ease at flying up to see my mum, wondering when I will next see her. I miss my friend who is staying in her own bubble if safety, but I must accept as I have always been guided to accept, that right now is how it is meant to be, because if it were meant to be otherwise, it simply would.
Like me, you may be struggling right now. I get it I truly do. All we can do is let go, trust that this weird topsy-turvy world is here for a purpose and remember that life is happening even if it doesn’t feel like the life we once knew or even a life we want right now.
At times you will personally feel like you have been tipped upside down and pulled inside out. And the key during this time is to not resist it.
It is when we resist these strange and confusing times that we suffer.
We need to let go of trying to control it, and we need not be afraid because it will all turn out the way it’s supposed to, and that new life, new world maybe exactly what we ordered on a soul level.
At this time we are not only being offered the gift of change but the gift of aliveness. Aliveness feels exhilarating, aliveness feels uncertain and unknown, this is what life is.
Deadness is the known, the certain, the controlled.
We didn’t come into this world to live life as walking corpses, but as fully functioning alive human beings.
We’re no longer on the easy gentle carousel ride but instead we’ve been flung onto a rollercoaster for a time.
The seasons on planet earth turn from winter into spring, spring into summer etc…but for them to do this, they go through the same process we are going through. Everything dies off, changes, is uncertain. We go through what I call the in-between time, that time between summer and autumn, when there is a level of discomfort in the air until we are fully thrust into the new season. We also experience the same thing when we go from darkness into light.
And so right now we are going through darkness or deadness into light and aliveness.
You will be okay; you will handle these changes. Sometimes you may feel like things are falling apart and you can’t cope, but you will cope, even if you get help to cope.
The more your world feels in chaos, the more it feels out of your control, the greater is the change that’s happening for you. This is a good thing, even if it may not feel that way right now.
One thing we all need to remember at this time is that we can find an anchor that will hold us. It can be anything from a daily mindful walk, to meditation, to something that has a routine to it. This will help when the world or your personal world has gone off the rails a bit. I send you my love and please, if you are struggling too much, get help, call a friend or family member, phone your doctor or a mental health helpline. You don’t have to do this alone if this topsy-turvy world is too much for you.
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