Title: The Gifts Of Imperfection
Author: Brene Brown
Genre: Self Help/ Emotional Health
This book was on my reading bucket list.
Brene brings a different slant to the self-help arena and brings us home to our humanity, which I much prefer in self-help books. As a writer and research professor she likes to look into the human condition and why people do what they do. This book brings together her research in clear and concise chapters under the headings of Guideposts.
- Guidepost #1 Cultivating Authenticity – Letting Go Of What People Think.
- Guidepost #2 Cultivating Self-Compassion – Letting Go Of Perfectionism.
- Guidepost #3 Cultivating a Resilient Spirit – Letting Go Of Numbing Powerlessness
- Guidepost #4 Cultivating Gratitude and Joy – Letting Go Of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark.
- Guidepost #5 Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith – Letting Go Of The Need For Certainty.
- Guidepost #6 Cultivating Creativity – Letting Go Of Comparison.
- Guidepost #7 Cultivating Play and Rest – Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth.
- Guidepost #8 Cultivating Calm and Stillness – Letting Go Of Anxiety as a Lifestyle.
- Guidepost #9 Cultivating Meaningful Work – Letting Go Of Self-Doubt and “Supposed To”
- Guidepost #10 Cultivating Laughter, Song and Dance – Letting Go Of Being Cool and Always In Control.
The first 3 chapters I enjoyed, but after that I found the constant referring to her research and her way of using the DIG analogy (get Deliberate, get Inspired, and get Going) over and over again irritating. I know a lot of people seem to have got a lot out of this book, I just found it did not DIG deep enough to help embrace myself with compassion. She referred lightly to mindfulness, which in my experience is an excellent way of embracing through compassion.
What would have been great was to see Brene share her own vulnerability which I didn’t feel she did. And as the book is about this topic it would have warmed me more to the writing.
Overall it has potential, some elements of interest and support, but it needed to be fuller and more in-depth than it was written. It would make a good beginners’ guide to self compassion but would for me, be only classed as a starting point.
Clearly laid out, some good thoughts on the topic of shame. Some relevant ways of looking at oneself through the eyes of compassion. A good beginners’ guide.
Needs more depth. Brene would have engaged the reader more with fewer references to her research and more to vulnerability from her own life experiences. Quite basic – more is needed for self compassion.