Something that has been arising for me lately is my earlier dependence on material abundance. More clothes, more food, more money, more technology… more and more and more….
As time has gone by while I have desires still they are becoming more desires to experience life. While luxury would be nice, while wealth would be nice, I don’t feel such a dependent need on it.
I have just read ‘Tuesdays With Morrie’ by Mitch Albom, a quote by Morrie (based on a true story of an amazing teacher who was visited by an old student of his when he was nearing the end of his life and wrote a book based on Tuesday visits) really brought it home to me this week:
“Wherever I went in life , I met people wanting to gobble up something new. Gobble up a new car. Gobble up a new piece of property. Gobble up the latest toy. And then they wanted to tell you about it. ‘Guess what I got? Guess what I got?’
“You know how I always interpreted that? These were people so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it never works. You can’t substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship.
Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can tell you, as I’m sitting here dying, when you most need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling you’re looking for, no matter how much of them you have.” Page 125
This reminds me of the thousands of people that have queued up around the globe to get the new IPAD2. This really puzzled me, as for me if someone wanted an IPAD2 surely waiting a few weeks when it would in the shops and probably cheaper would be a better option. It then dawned on me, so many people need the best to prove themselves to the world, “Look at me! I am important! I matter!”.
I am sure many of us have felt this similar need, I know I have felt this with different things in my life.
I am beginning, bit by bit, day by day, understanding, It’s love we need. Love from within ourselves, not from material objects, power, status or other people. But from the voice within, the love within.
To me, this is becoming more and more important every day.
LATEST POSTS
- CHEMTRAILS: Do We Need To Focus On The Light?It’s challenging to not focus on what we see above us in the skies lately. Especially in the UK. Even the most hardened sceptic can spend a few hours in their garden gazing up, watching criss-cross white lines appear across the beautiful blue sky. And we all notice how the lines don’t disappear (like they did in the past), but instead they expand and…
- When Insecurity Becomes Security In LoveIn deepening my understanding of relationships and attachment styles, I’ve come to realise that my upbringing, feeling insecure as a child, created an unhealthy relationship with security. While other children may have felt secure in a stable, non-volatile, or emotionally receptive world, being shown instability, insecurity, uncertainty, and never knowing if I was going to be acknowledged, seen, or heard led to feeling secure…
- Do You NEED To Suffer?So in February, I was starting to understand a fear of happiness when I wrote Why am I afraid to be happy? It was a thought process beginning to unravel more deeply what was going on for me. Since then, I have discovered that, due to my early life programming, unlike many, my baseline for life is suffering, pain, and struggle. I was rewarded…
- Commitment: Are You Unconsciously Escaping From What You Need?Imagine my surprise when I discovered I wasn’t committed to success or personal growth but instead to escaping. Why would I be committed to escaping, and how is this even possible? Many of us on a spiritual or healing journey probably have as our priority our own wellbeing, personal growth, and transformation. We also probably have desires to succeed in areas we love or…
- Is Your LOVE Profile Toxic?Since my best friend died in 2023, I’ve been considering my life a lot, my relationships, friendships, and so much more. Grief brings with it a deep sense of loneliness, especially when the one who died was a partner or husband. Michael, while not my husband, was like a husband in many ways. We didn’t so much have the romance, but we certainly had…
Share this:
Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.
