Thriving As An Outsider

Being an outsider is the most rewarding experience of my life.
For many years I have tried to fit into a mould.  During school years the mould of my peers, during college the mould of intellectuals, as my spiritual awakening happened – the mould of the spiritual elite.
AND for most of the time I was always trying to fit the mould of expectations from my biological family.
Always a sense of needing to belong to something.
Outsiders walk the road nobody will walk for fear of ridicule or judgement.

Outsiders stir up the world for change to take place.

Outsiders are content and thrive when they are alone.
ALONENESS is not a scary place for an outsider.
ALONENESS is a place of love, nurturing, understanding, wisdom and inspiration.
My journey of accepting myself as an outsider has begun.  I no longer need to say yes to people simply because society has conditioned me to do so, I no longer am obligated to family or friends.  My saying yes to me is the most rewarding thing I could give to this planet and consciousness as a whole.
Any struggle and pain of my past came because I tried to be a person I thought the world wanted me to be.
I am now choosing to be the person I want to be, for me.

What You Learn From Being An Outsider

  1. Authenticity and Self-Discovery: You no longer need to conform to societal expectations or family obligations and is a significant step toward authenticity. Choosing to be true to yourself, free from external pressures, is a profound act of self-discovery.

  2. Walking the Untraveled Path: You gain the courage it takes to venture into uncharted territory, often leading to new perspectives and opportunities for growth.

  3. Stirring Change:  You stir up the world for change. Throughout history, many positive transformations have been initiated by those who dared to question the status quo and challenge societal norms.

  4. Aloneness as a Source of Strength: Seeing aloneness as not a scary place, but a space of love, nurturing, understanding, wisdom, and inspiration highlights the strength and richness that can be found within oneself.

  5. Breaking Free from Societal Conditioning: Recognising that past struggles arose from trying to conform to societal expectations is a key theme on the journey toward self-acceptance. Breaking free from such conditioning is liberating and allows for personal growth.

  6. Choosing Self over Societal Expectations: The decision to say yes to yourself rather than conforming to external expectations is a powerful act of self-love and self-care. It reflects a shift from seeking validation from others to valuing and honoring your own desires and needs.

Are you an outsider? 
What is your experience of being an outsider like?
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Kelly Martin
Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.

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