Flowing With Change – Dropping Attachment To Outcomes

  Nature Flows With The Changes And Experiences Life Gracefully – We Can Do The Same One thing I have discovered over the past few years is the importance of being flexible. Not only with the day-to-day changes that can take place, but life goals, dreams and our desires in life. I sometimes feel that life gives you unfulfilled desires to encourage you to learn to bend more, to be…

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Mindfulness and The Law Of Attraction

  I guess many that know me think I am anti positive-thinking or anti the ‘Law of Attraction’ and I guess in some ways I was, but not in the way people may think. My own belief is that thoughts do matter; how we think, primarily about ourselves does affect our reality. And when I say reality I don’t mean the clouds will part if I think it or my…

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Meditation – It’s Not What You Think It Is

    Over 10 years ago I started to meditate for the first time, as a part of a group. We sat on chairs in a circle, and were taken through a guided meditation. It was lovely, very serene, and we were taken into a magical landscape inside our imagination. I left relaxed, peaceful and serene. But, this is not the real purpose of meditation to me. That is, meditation that…

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Heart Communication – Are You An Interrupter?

Since becoming more mindful in my day-to-day experiences I notice how much I want to change my communication style. As someone who has experienced anxiety for a long time, I notice that out of anxiety often comes interrupting others. I thought I was the only one, but I recently met a lady suffering from anxiety who spoke like a machine gun, never fully present to hear the other person. I…

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Does Getting What You ‘Really’ Want Have Consequences?

Last night I had the strangest dream, but it had a very deep message for me and something to further ponder on with regards to getting what we want. Many teachings on-line speak of the famous ‘Law Of Attraction’ and ‘Creating Your Reality’. They say ‘if you want it, you can have it’. Now maybe this is true, maybe it is not, but my dream showed me something that really…

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Are You Addicted To Drama?

Are You Addicted To Drama? Just notice how attracted the mind is to special effects, drama, and speeded-up versions of life.  Our thoughts and fantasies are not very satisfying or fulfilling. Like watching television for hours on end, they leave us feeling empty. You can never get enough of what does not satisfy. ~ Nirmala   There is a ‘soap opera’ in the UK called EastEnders. It has one of…

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The Mindful Way through Anxiety – Book Review

  Title: The Mindful Way through Anxiety Authors: Susan M. Orsillo & Lizabeth Roemer Published: 2 Mar 2011 Publisher: Guilford Press Pages: 308 Price:  £11.99 ( 20% discount for UK readers using MINDKMS13 code  – Valid from 1st August – 30th September) Click HERE  Other parts of the world : $16.95 RRP Genre: Self Help As someone who has experienced anxiety since I was a small child, I am always looking for real tools and books that…

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Are You Physically Here? Grounded To Planet Earth

    So many of us are not actually on this planet even though we may think we are. We are elsewhere thinking about the future, reminiscing about the past or doing a multitude of other things, but how physically present are any of us? I walk everywhere as we haven’t got a car and I rarely get the bus so I am very physical, yet this week I discovered…

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The Mindful Way Through Depression – Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness – Book Review

  Title: The Mindful Way Through Depression – Freeing Yourself From Chronic Unhappiness Authors: Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal & Jon Kabat-Zinn Published: 2007 Publisher: Guilford Pages: 273 Price:  £15.99 (paperback) 20% discount for UK readers using MINDKMS13 code (Valid from 1st August – 30th September) Click HERE Other parts of the world : $21.95 (RRP) Click HERE Genre: Self Help   Winner of the Association for Behavioural and  Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Seal of…

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Attached To Feeling Good

Many ‘spiritual’ teachings encourage positive thinking, yet by doing so they are resisting the entirety of our human experience. The teachings can often be so generalised that they do not take into account an individual’s personal history, conditioning and much more. What we need is balance, and to not be attached to feeling joyful or blissed-up and happy. In Buddhism it is said non-attachment to everything is the key to…

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