Life is one big uncertainty. No-one can go through life without experiencing uncertainty. From life changes like jobs ending, to people dying, to relationships changing, to the general uncertainty of not knowing what direction to take in life, being human comes with the experience of uncertainty. Now the difference between those who embrace it and those that don’t, shows in the coping mechanisms of those who are unwilling to embrace…
View PostWhen fear arises, most of us will do anything to not feel it. We use all kinds of mechanisms to resist fear; overeating, drinking, watching TV, playing computer games, listening to music, over-socialising, over-working and generally keeping busy. Yet the underlying fear still remains. It’s like trying to hold a balloon under water. All these attempts to diffuse the feelings simply do not work. I was like this for most…
View PostCan we, as humans in the West, be happy without money? Can I be happy without all the ‘stuff’? It’s fairly easy to moan and complain about a lack of money but sometimes money is what money is. We either have it or we don’t. We may have a lot, none or some. Many people in the world are addicted to affluence, it is hard to get out of that…
View PostSometimes life throws you internal curve balls and if something is not dealt with it simply becomes bigger and bigger until we have no choice but to deal with it. My curve ball is anxiety. Anxiety has been an emotion that has been so familiar to me ever since I was a small child. My mother suffered from it, my father suffered from it, and I guess I did from an…
View PostI am sitting at this computer to help me understand what I need to know right now about this subject of validation. It is not until I started questioning where I am coming from that this subject keeps coming up for me. When I felt part of the human tribe, an insider, a person who belonged to a group or sector of society, my validation, my reason for being…
View PostChinese Proverb You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair. Since implementing structure into my days I am noticing a vibrant energy flowing through me. Structure is bringing me a sense of taking charge of my life. I feel like a rider on a great steed, riding fully into my life. I feel onboard the…
View PostSometimes in life a lack of structure can lead to ‘depression’. While it’s beneficial to spend a period of time in quiet contemplation, allowing life to unfold in an open manner, there comes a time when structure is very necessary, not only necessary but classifed as a life saving measure! I have come to this period of my journey. It’s understandable that many retired men and women can often go…
View PostSo you have an idea of something you would like to try out, creatively speaking and you feel the bubbling arise for a potential project and you sit and feel stuck. Maybe it’s an idea you have been wanting to try your hand at for some time, but you have never done anything like it before. Maybe you simply don’t know where to begin. While I love that Julia Cameron…
View Post“The need to be a great artist makes it hard to be an artist. The need to produce a great work of art makes it hard to produce any art at all.” (Julia Cameron) Last night I made the mistake of allowing the ugly head of comparison to rise again. I looked at another’s art and felt like I was “too late in the game”, “Its pointless to write,…
View PostSo today while looking out from our back window onto my landlord’s garden, I was watching this lovely baby blackbird. She has been so adorable to watch lately. She is as a big, if not bigger than a full grown blackbird, yet her wings are still a bit fluffy. She can fly but is like a new baby getting to know the world. Last week I sat in the garden…
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