Alone – Aloneness – Lonely – Seeking One’s Own Light

I wanted to write a short update for my blog. So how am I doing right now? Well – letting it all unfold.  It is all I can do right now. It’s funny because all the things I used to do, all the behaviour or the choices I made, were choices made to make me feel better via feedback from the outside world. And as I allowed my life to unfold…

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Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

    “When life is empty of this and that, The more we hold on, the less we catch, The life we once had, the life we once dreamed, Falls by the wayside and is not what it seemed.”    – Kelly Martin, 2011 How many of us reach a crossroads in our lives and recognise the scenery, but notice instead of reaching the winning square, we’ve been transported back…

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The Pendulum Swings : Accepting & Appreciating Your ‘Negative’ Traits

Are you bossy? Controlling? Manipulative? Arrogant? Patronising? Sarcastic? Naughty? Rebellious?..   When you beat yourself up for these qualities did you know that you may be imposing limits on who you are?   Have you considered that certain personality traits seen as flaws or weaknesses simply require your loving acceptance? Have you ever met a person who doesn’t give a damn what anybody else thinks of them? ‘Flaws’ and all?…

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On Being A Victim – A Larger Perspective

This morning I had some old drama creep into my mind, and I ran the train of thought until I was in panic mode. I won’t go into details but it really put things into perspective regarding the bigger picture of life.   None of us are victims – we are not powerless to circumstances – we are not dis-empowered by people ‘out there’.   No road is available to us unless…

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A Fear Of Dying

It is said the fear of dying is behind all fears and it probably is. Yet for ‘me’ it’s not so much a fear of dying but more a fear of not living. I am writing this blog entry to objectify a rather unpleasant series of dreams I had last night. I dream very vividly, write them down and interpret them. This series felt like I needed to get them…

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Can You Be Happy Without Money?

Can we, as humans in the West, be happy without money? Can I be happy without all the ‘stuff’? It’s fairly easy to moan and complain about a lack of money but sometimes money is what money is. We either have it or we don’t. We may have a lot, none or some. Many people in the world are addicted to affluence, it is hard to get out of that…

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Embracing LOST

  I have missed blogging here but it just hasn’t felt good for me to write my thoughts down publicly this past month and a bit. Lots has been going on, inside me. A quick round up of the ‘stuff’. Acknowledged some deep childhood issues and making peace with the women in my life. Allowing myself to re-connect with close family. Letting the woman in me connect with other women.…

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Managing Anxiety & Fear Of Loss

Sometimes life throws you internal curve balls and if something is not dealt with it simply becomes bigger and bigger until we have no choice but to deal with it.  My curve ball is anxiety.   Anxiety has been an emotion that has been so familiar to me ever since I was a small child. My mother suffered from it, my father suffered from it, and I guess I did from an…

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The Beauty Of Okay

“There is no external source of our suffering, pain, pleasure and happiness. Our experiences of the good, the bad and the ugly are the creations of our minds.”   – Dzogche Ponlop Rinpoche Sometimes I find it easy to be with myself, sometimes I don’t.   Sometimes the sunshine, beautiful landscape invigorates me, sometimes it doesn’t.  Will there ever become a time when the landscape, the beauty of the day consistently pleases…

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When It’s Ripe It’s Ready!

So you have an idea of something you would like to try out, creatively speaking and you feel the bubbling arise for a potential project and you sit and feel stuck. Maybe it’s an idea you have been wanting to try your hand at for some time, but you have never done anything like it before.  Maybe you simply don’t know where to begin. While I love that Julia Cameron…

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