Can You Be A Nobody? Instead Of Trying To Be Somebody

  How does this make you feel? Deflated? Sad? Empowered? Now what if I said:  “You Are A Very Special Somebody.”   How does this make you feel? Better, happier?  Well like most of us, you’re probably suffering from somebody-itis. This is the need to be a special somebody. You may think, ‘Isn’t that what life is all about? Striving to have some sort of impact on the world, add…

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No Fast Way To Self-Love : Self Acceptance Is The Beginning

The idea of self-love didn’t even cross my mind until 14 years ago. Before that time I assumed you get what you want in life, (money, job, partner, friends etc.) and that is happiness. Self-love was a foreign concept to me. While in Australia my world opened wide to a more feeling way to live in the world, and instead of my life revolving around outer change it became more…

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Frustrated and Feeling Stuck ?

When you are striving towards something in life, it can feel that the road is infinitely long sometimes. Frustration is something many people experience, that, and feeling stuck. I know I have and still do. One day, while considering this, I was reminded that everything is in perfect timing, including emotions such as frustration and resistance. We want to be rid of the resistance and we feel that the resistance…

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Who Am I? Define Success

Who am I? Define success. Many people in the world have an inbuilt definition of success.  In the West: status, career, money, and for some it is owning a home, getting married and having children. In the East it may be being a man of honour, or having a religious standing in the community, or education or intelligence. But do any of these define success?   This definition of success…

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The Wisdom Of Ageing Well – By Michael Doherty (Guest Blogger)

This photograph is not Michael This is a guest post by Michael Doherty from The Michael Files Kelly has asked me to write a post about ageing. She wanted me to do this as I am a reasonably fit, reasonably healthy 75 year old, who lives a full and active life. It has not always been so. I was born just before the Second World War, in 1937, so most of my early…

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Focusing On Lack Is Like Searching For Lost Keys

Shared via Google labeled for reuse taken by Alessiaizzophotography During an extra long EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) session some time ago, something dawned on me about desire and focusing on lack. It could be lack of anything, money, love, health, physical beauty, anything we feel we have a lack of in our lives. We may crave connection, love, friendship, money and yet it eludes us like a carrot on the…

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Smile And The World Smiles With You

 Walking into my local Marks and Spencer’s today, I crossed paths with a lady shopping. I smiled warmly at her and she responded with a grimace. My first initial reaction was to judge her, calling her names like ‘miserable grumpy sod‘, and more inside my head. This was just an old memory being replayed, and within a few minutes I stopped myself in my tracks. It was not her job to…

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Letting The Blues Be – Riding The Tide Of Sadness

Sometimes we feel blue. Sometimes we just cannot contain sadness.   The emotions overwhelm and spill over, filling the eyes, the heart may feel heavy, and the body filled with sighs.   Sometimes we feel blue and there is nothing we can do.   We can take stimulants, drink coffee, exercise, distract, and then we have a moment of silence, of quiet and the blues return again.   So sometimes,…

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Practising An Attitude Of GRATITUDE When You Do Not Want To

  I made a promise to myself in 2013 to practise an attitude of gratitude daily. Admittedly, 2013 has not started the way I imagined it would, and gratitude has been far from my mind. With physical curve balls, emotional curve balls and fear curve balls all showing up at the same time my ego said ‘Gratitude?! YEAH RIGHT!’. 1. Today, Mike took me for a walk (wide grin – I sound…

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Emptiness – The Path Of The Heart

   It it seems the path of the heart is what we all genuinely desire, deep down within us. Home, Source, God, Creator – whatever we name or label the energy that creates all things has always resided within us. Yet most of us have been so easily distracted by the trappings of the ego, the mind and the desire of the surface self, that we’ve missed out on the…

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