We are told time and time again: “You must love yourself”. And yet when we are feeling less loving towards others, it feels like an impossible thing to do. Instead why not… Love Yourself For NOT Loving Can you love yourself for not loving someone or not liking someone? It seems to go against the grain of so many spiritual teachings. We are taught to be compassionate and…
View PostVIDEO – Soul Reminder Acceptance & Releasing Resistance To What Is Hi all, As some of you know I have a KELLY MARTIN SPEAKS YOU TUBE channel. I have posted a lot on there over the years, but nothing recently. I have been toying with creating short videos for a long time and so here is my first in a series. I will be posting one a week lasting only…
View PostBeing alone can bring such a beautiful feeling of spaciousness inside. Prolonged periods of solitude can be a challenge to the ego. As humans we are encouraged to interact, to socialise and to be with our fellow man, but what happens if no matter how hard we try we seem to be isolated from humanity more and more? This can actually be the biggest gift you gave yourself as a…
View PostMaking New Friends As A Female In Adult Years Can Be Challenging From an early age, I had experiences of rejection from female friends. My first close, intimate friendship was around age 4, but her family moved to another part of the country. My next close friendship was with a girl called Sharon around age 7. When I say intimate I mean natural, honest, authentic when relating. Friendship where you…
View PostThis is for all of those people out there reading who perhaps struggled in 2013. For those who have not had all the stars lined up for them. For everyone who is suffering from depression,anxiety, feelings of failure, heart-ache and pain. To me you are such a valuable member of society. To me this world would be a very empty place if you were not here. So even though…
View PostFlaws Can Be Beautiful If We See The Jewels In The Mire How do you feel about your flaws? Those aspects of your personality that you are probably not too fond of? What if I told you that the changes you desire and the peace that you want, depend on those flaws getting your full acceptance and attention? Sometimes in life we are just going through the motions.…
View PostThe author reflects on whether showing our authentic selves at all times is feasible or welcome. Drawing from personal experiences, they suggest that being authentic isn’t just about constant honesty, but knowing when to adapt or ‘shape-shift’ for social harmony. They confront the idea that authenticity must always be kind or wise, instead embracing the full spectrum of their personality, including flaws. The key, they find, is self-acceptance and awareness, which allows for true authenticity and personal growth.
View PostEarly birth experiences, including immediate bonding with the mother or its absence, can significantly influence an individual’s lifelong emotional well-being. Lack of early mother-child connection can lead to issues like anxiety, insecurity, and difficulty in relationships. Understanding and nurturing self-mothering is crucial for personal development, with techniques such as meditation and finding role models in mothering showing potential benefits. Planet-wide, the deficit of mother love might contribute to widespread pain and suffering, indicating the need for global healing through the development of inner maternal love and compassion.
View PostThis is a follow up to ‘Saying Goodbye To People Pleasing’ HERE I have come to the conclusion that being on a journey of self-awareness or spirituality can breed a unsavoury side to how we deal with ourselves. Many people view weaknesses or imperfections as un-spiritual. I imagine there are heck of a lot of people hiding behind a spiritual façade where on the surface everything appears ‘perfect’, where the face the…
View PostThis is a follow up to Loving Pinocchio I am currently aged 37, and from the age of 6, I began to ‘people please’. This all began because of my experience with the headmistress (she told me that I had embarrassed the whole school because I did not put my flowers in the correct place in a school production). People pleasing has been a way of life for…
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