We may meet that occasional human being with that Pollyanna attitude, always positive; always looking on the bright side; always pouring light and love over any dark or dire situation; but Pollyanna is not whole. Pollyanna is missing half of who she is. But is there a negative side to positive thinking Unfortunately this is what some personal development paths are encouraging – being ‘positive’ pretty much all of the…
View PostFor the longest time I believed that to have high self-esteem was a worthy goal to aim for. I didn’t even realise I had this goal until recently. Practising mindfulness led me into a less goal/future orientated approach to living and a more ‘present moment’ experience. Little did I know, lingering in the back of my mind, was the desire to not have low self-esteem and this automatically created the…
View PostJealousy, a feeling many people experience, is something that can cause a depressive mood, anger, rage and sometimes numbness. I was a very jealous person, and I still have my moments. My jealousy was not so much in romantic relationships, but more an intense jealousy of people ‘appearing’ to do far better than me in life. My list of jealousy moments included: Jealousy of friends and family succeeding professionally and…
View PostTitle: The Gifts Of Imperfection Let Go Of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Author: Brene Brown Published: 2010 Publisher: Hazelden Pages: 137 UK Price: £10.95 Purchase Here The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are USA : $8.47 at time of posting (Purchase HERE) Genre: Self Help/ Emotional Health This book was…
View Post1. Start to see your ‘No’s as an affirmative ‘Yes’ to your life! Every time you allow someone to cross a personal boundary you are giving them permission to keep on doing ‘whatever’ they are doing and saying to yourself that you do not deserve better. 2. Remember you are not being mean to anyone by setting boundaries. When you don’t set boundaries you are being mean to yourself…
View PostAnyone who has spent a lot of time trying to please others in their lives will always come to a point where it no longer works and they have the choice of continuing to people please or saying ‘no’ so life can give us more affirmative reasons to say ‘yes’. Stopping people pleasing can be a slow gradual process, we say no in many areas of our lives and begin to be more…
View PostThere is that well known saying ‘sometimes things need to get worse before they get better’. As some of you know I have been questioning reality since 1999, writing this blog since 2007 and coming back to what truly matters, being authentic, embracing ‘what is’ and being more deeply present in my world. For the first time in what feels like a decade, I am feeling creatively rich, I am…
View PostFinding sun lotion for my rosacea skin has been such a trial in the past. I have tried many different types, from natural sun lotions to more chemical rich lotions meant for sensitive skin, and most of them cause further flair ups and increase my sensitivity. Generally when I go into the sun, if I sunbathe, my skin goes red almost immediately. I get this sore burning feeling and people…
View PostAs a teenager I had quite bad acne, but rosacea did not come until my late twenties after my father died. I know that many people try to treat rosacea with a chemical or cream-based approach, and I did the same for some time so desperate was I to be rid of this condition. Alas nothing worked consistently until I realised that rosacea is not simply a ‘one-size fits all’…
View PostLife is one big uncertainty. No-one can go through life without experiencing uncertainty. From life changes like jobs ending, to people dying, to relationships changing, to the general uncertainty of not knowing what direction to take in life, being human comes with the experience of uncertainty. Now the difference between those who embrace it and those that don’t, shows in the coping mechanisms of those who are unwilling to embrace…
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