Why People Pleasing Hurts and How To Drop The ‘Good Girl’ Act

Why People Pleasing Hurts and How To Drop The ‘Good Girl’ Act I pleased people since childhood, wearing my mask of smiles and niceness because when I let out the assertive honest me, people disappeared from my life. So as I enter my mid-life, I release the need to please…

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How Painful Shame Taught Me A Very Valuable Lesson

How Painful Shame Taught Me A Very Valuable Lesson How many times have you felt shame for being human? For making normal, human errors? For expressing your vulnerability and weaknesses out loud to other human beings? I know I have and just did it again today. Being a woman with…

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10 Ways To Have A Stress-Free Christmas

 10 Ways To Have A Stress-Free Christmas So the Christmas season is heating up, the stores are full to brimming with gifts and sales, your little ones are tugging at your heartstrings to provide for them the perfect day and perhaps you’re losing your head a little and the stress…

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How To Stop Being Triggered By Life

How To Stop Being Triggered By Life “Not this again,” I’d catch myself saying. It was usually after a triggering event like someone parking my car in the driveway or when I felt unseen or excluded. I’d feel really pissed about it. I mean, how dare they! How could they…

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Kelly Martin Speaks: 10 Year Blog Anniversary

  Kelly Martin Speaks: 10 Year Blog Anniversary 10 years today I wrote my first blog entry. This blog was initially meant as an online public journal where I got to express myself when I felt very insecure and socially anxious. Fast-forward 10 years and since that first post ‘Why…

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The Important Freedom and Power in Being Wrong

The Important Freedom and Power in Being Wrong At the end of 2016 some old issues began to rise for me. Deep fears and stuff that has held me back in life, but I chose to brush them under the carpet. Being Wrong – Owning This Grizzly Bear I was…

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How a Crappy 2016 Can Inspire Your Happy New Year

How a Crappy 2016 Can Inspire Your Happy New Year Nine out of ten people, in all probability, had what appeared to be a shitty 2016. From marriage failure, jobs ending, loved ones dying or major health issues. My 2016 involved solicitor battles, near homelessness and a terrible sense of…

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STRONG Unparalleled breakthroughs of an epic scale incoming!

Dear Blog Readers…. Sorry for being an absent parent to this blog for some time now. Life has been a bit crazy. From experiencing the old black dog of depression for several months which caused an identity crisis to health issues and survival issues related to an upcoming home eviction,…

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P Is For POVERTY

Poor brings up so many connotations, starving children in Africa to homeless people on the street in the Western world, yet poor to me is a state of mind. There seem to be so many degrees of feeling poor and what feels like poverty to one person is absolute abundance…

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Blogging From A to Z – April Challenge

Hi everyone, so to kickstart my spring (I love the spring – full of new things). I am joining a challenge, it’s called ‘Blogging from A to Z Challenge’ It sounds fun and a way to really ponder a specific topic. So I will be posting a new post every…

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