Do You NEED What You Want?

It feels like a kick in the teeth when someone says you can’t have what you want – doesn’t it? I get this. I was led to believe some time ago that ‘anything is possible’, ‘you can have anything you want’ in life, but then my critical thinking mind questioned…

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Drop the Fantasy and Find Joy in the Reality

Sometimes, we need to let go of the fantasy and find fulfilment in our reality. ~ Kelly Martin We can all reminisce about the ‘good old days’, be it in life as a whole or in the relationships we think we had. It can be so easy to get lost…

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Why Great Change Can Come From Powerful Loss

Sometimes in life, we can be so fixated on a dream that we don’t notice the dream is not nourishing us anymore. This was me and my dream of the mental health and music radio station Peace Within Radio, and my trip to Glastonbury in the UK that took me…

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Why I Found It Hard To Let Go Of My Dream

Sitting here on a humid June afternoon, I feel a furious rage and anger rising inside of me. I have spent a lot of time feeling both a mixture of relief, frustration and deep sadness for a few weeks now. However, now the anger of the grief cycle has arrived.…

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Why the World Can Sing Your Praises and You Don’t

I’ve been on this path for a long time, the self-acceptance path. I turn 43 this year and before the year 2000 I was pretty much asleep, most of the time. I had very low self-esteem; I had no concept of self-love, self-care or self-compassion. Instead I adopted the coping…

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Why Money Challenges Are All About Trust

I’ve written about money issues many times in this blog, how to recognise where we may be stuck and how we may have secondary benefits to why we do not allow financial abundance into our lives. Sometimes money problems are a deeper block and barrier to change than it is…

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Why Gratitude Is Not Always A Good Thing

You Should Be Grateful! You must be thankful! You should be grateful. You need to be grateful for what you’ve got to get more…and so the list of must-do’s goes on, BUT is it true? I followed many ‘positive thinking’ teachers for a very long time and also got on…

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Why Chaos Is An Essential Ingredient Of Success

There is often an essential mess before a spectacular success. How often are we told that this is part of success? Not often. I think for many of us, if we have goals or intentions in life, perhaps we are starting a new business, publishing our first book, or moving…

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How to Overcome The Fear Of Change?

We are told to ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’, to fall and get back up in the face of failure and finally to discover that we may in fact be more scared of shining, more scared of success than we ever were of failing in the first place.…

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New Year, New Hope Or Attachment To Outcomes?

New Year, New You Bullshit! It’s so easy to do a New Year blog post– a new you post. We revel in the New Year; we say goodbye to the old and enthuse about the new beginning, but why are we waiting until the end of a made-up numeric date…

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