Why Are You Postponing Your Life?

There are many reasons we can be in a holding pattern in life. It can be anything from the end of a relationship, being made redundant from a job, world events, health issues making it more challenging to move in the direction we would like or a pattern of unconscious or conscious beliefs that makes it feel impossible for our lives to change. At the moment the pandemic we are…

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Who Am I When I’m Not Helping People?

Many years ago, I used to have plenty of co-dependent relationships. I always wore the hat of ‘helper’, ‘rescuer’ or ‘guide’ and because of this I attracted people who saw themselves as victims, because without victim personalities we helpers have no-one to help. I understood this – that I only valued myself through the feedback I got from helping others. I also noticed that after a while I grew tired…

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When You Need to Free Others from Responsibility

“Women are not helpless and dependent like little kittens; they have the courage and strength to roar like lions. They are not candles that need to be lit by someone else; they are the self-effulgent sun.” ~ Mother Amma Sometimes in life we allow ourselves to be carried. This is not just a female experience but can be a male experience too. Sometimes the burden of life and suffering can…

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Why When You Accept Your Flaws You Are Free

When we judge our flaws to be wrong, we suffer. If we feel that our anger, our fear, our judgements, our resentment are wrong, we are triggered by others who point fingers our way. One thing I have learned over the past few years is to make peace with what I used to think were bad qualities or emotions within me. If someone attacked me and criticised my flaws I…

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Is It Time You Practised Saying ‘Yes’?

Is it time you began to practice saying ‘Yes’ to your reality? Change happens, but sometimes we resist change so much that we do everything in our power to hold on to the known, to the certainty, to the secure aspects of our lives. Yet eventually, all this trying to stop the flow of change, catches up with us and we have no choice but to face it. The question…

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When Commitment Knocks at The Door

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 81 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 81. This week I have been experiencing some major physical symptoms from an advanced form of chiropractic work. I’ve been having back issues for a long time; I didn’t realise how long until I started to see that…

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Why It’s Okay When You Think Life Is NOT Enough

Contrary to popular positive thinking practices, did you know that it is perfectly okay that you don’t think your life is enough? That you may see people in your life, and you may feel lack or challenged to accept who they are and that is okay? Or you may look at your life overall and not be able to see the perfection in it all and that too is okay?…

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2020 Time To Let Go Of Control

In 2019 so much happened, pretty much all of it was out of my control. Mum got cancer and recovered I started and ran the mental health radio station and had to close it down due to lack of human resources I entered the spiritual void Remain parties tried to stop Brexit in the UK The people voted and the majority voted in a party wanting Brexit Donald Trump was…

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Your Trust Is Your Faith

Your trust is your faith, your power of mind – Chuck Spezzano The mind loves to go to work on something. It will go to work on anything, from the possibility of great things happening to the despair of perceived awful things happening. I know my mind has been engaged in the worst-case scenario for a lot of my life. Being taught to worry from an early age from my…

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Why Leaning In To The Pain Is Important

Lying on the couch while chatting with my acupuncturist, we had a conversation about pain, grief, fear and loss. I told him about how when I was finally beginning to face the fear of loss that had been ruling my actions and limiting my life for so long, life gave me the greatest trigger in my best friend getting sick, but he reminded me of something I needed to know.…

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