Is Your Attachment To Outcome Causing You Pain?

From my book ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ It is easy to get lost in the daily irritations of comparing yourself with others. This constant battle can be incredibly tiresome. In the beginning most of what you understand is all in the intellect, but experiencing something is an entirely different matter. Knowing that life changes, that life moves and changes exactly when it needs to, often doesn’t bring you any… View Post

Is Physical Pain Protecting You from Life?

It takes courage to acknowledge when something we want to get rid of is the very thing that has been protecting us from perceived harm. Sometimes we have physical challenges in life. These challenges could be knee issues, back pain, chronic fatigue syndrome, the list goes on and on. It takes a brave person to finally accept ‘Hey, I think a part of me wants to be in pain, because… View Post

Why We Can’t Live in A Perfect World

We live in an imperfect world, but so many of us are trying to make it perfect. We live in, at the moment, a more unstable and chaotic world. Disorder is everywhere and as a result people are understandably trying to create order out of disorder. The moment we are born, we are born into chaos. We leave our mother’s womb, often screaming, because big change has happened. We have… View Post

Are You Scared to Face the Truth of Life?

“For change to occur in us, we must be willing to enter the wilderness of the unknown and to wander in unfamiliar territory, directionless and often in the darkness….We do not need to keep every little thing under control. In fact, we find ourselves only by allowing some falling apart to happen.”― Maureen Brady I’m having to face some hard truths right now. Scary truths, uncertain truths, but truths all the… View Post

Do You Need to Be Guided into Your Light?

Being surrounded by darkness and what appears to be going wrong, can feel a far easier road to travel, simply because it is known. It can feel easier to pick apart our problems, trying to fix our apparent wounds and trying to see why they appeared and put every effort into finding the root of our hurts, our pain. However, the opposite, being led into our light can be a… View Post

Why Are You Postponing Your Life?

There are many reasons we can be in a holding pattern in life. It can be anything from the end of a relationship, being made redundant from a job, world events, health issues making it more challenging to move in the direction we would like or a pattern of unconscious or conscious beliefs that makes it feel impossible for our lives to change. At the moment the pandemic we are… View Post

Who Am I When I’m Not Helping People?

Many years ago, I used to have plenty of co-dependent relationships. I always wore the hat of ‘helper’, ‘rescuer’ or ‘guide’ and because of this I attracted people who saw themselves as victims, because without victim personalities we helpers have no-one to help. I understood this – that I only valued myself through the feedback I got from helping others. I also noticed that after a while I grew tired… View Post

When You Need to Free Others from Responsibility

“Women are not helpless and dependent like little kittens; they have the courage and strength to roar like lions. They are not candles that need to be lit by someone else; they are the self-effulgent sun.” ~ Mother Amma Sometimes in life we allow ourselves to be carried. This is not just a female experience but can be a male experience too. Sometimes the burden of life and suffering can… View Post

Why When You Accept Your Flaws You Are Free

When we judge our flaws to be wrong, we suffer. If we feel that our anger, our fear, our judgements, our resentment are wrong, we are triggered by others who point fingers our way. One thing I have learned over the past few years is to make peace with what I used to think were bad qualities or emotions within me. If someone attacked me and criticised my flaws I… View Post

Is It Time You Practised Saying ‘Yes’?

Is it time you began to practice saying ‘Yes’ to your reality? Change happens, but sometimes we resist change so much that we do everything in our power to hold on to the known, to the certainty, to the secure aspects of our lives. Yet eventually, all this trying to stop the flow of change, catches up with us and we have no choice but to face it. The question… View Post