Top 10 Tips on Setting Boundaries

1. Start to see your ‘No’s as an affirmative ‘Yes’ to your life! Every time you allow someone to cross a personal boundary you are giving them permission to keep on doing ‘whatever’ they are doing and saying to yourself that you do not deserve better. 2. Remember you are…

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Rosacea and Shame

As a teenager I had quite bad acne, but rosacea did not come until my late twenties after my father died. I know that many people try to treat rosacea with a chemical or cream-based approach, and I did the same for some time so desperate was I to be…

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The Reality Of Hope – Living For The Future

In all my experiences and journey through the subject of mindfulness and Advaita, I naively thought I could keep HOPE. I realised how conditioned I was to hope. I have hoped all my life; I was hoping more than I was aware of until now. I thought if I just…

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Do You ‘OWN’ Who You Are?

We are told to be authentic, to be who we really are, but how many of us truly ‘own’ who we are? Maybe you’re single, walking down the street and you see a couple holding hands and laughing and smiling and in that instant you reach out to that couple,…

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Top 10 Self Acceptance Books For Living A Compassionate Life

We all need a bit of encouragement in life and many of us are brought up into a life where we have no vocabulary for kindness. We may have been abused, bullied, neglected as children, or we may have been domestically abused in our adult lives. All of these factors…

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Embrace The Dark and Light Within You

Can you feel the beauty in moving from joy to sadness? Or is being positive more important to you? What if I told you that focusing ‘only’ on the positive keeps you stuck? I’ve been awake on my spiritual path since 1999, but I went through many cycles in that…

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Being Human Part 5: Love Yourself For NOT Loving!

We are told time and time again: “You must love yourself”. And yet when we are feeling less loving towards others, it feels like an impossible thing to do.  Instead why not… Love Yourself For NOT Loving   Can you love yourself for not loving someone or not liking someone?…

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Accepting Your Flaws – Gateway To Change

Flaws Can Be Beautiful If We See The Jewels In The Mire How do you feel about your flaws?    Those aspects of your personality that you are probably not too fond of?    What if I told you that the changes you desire and the peace that you want,…

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Feeling Poor At Christmas?

  The Simple Things Can Make A Frugal Christmas A Real Special Time As someone who currently is on a small budget at Christmas, I know what it’s like to feel poor at Christmas. This feeling changed this year. I understand how many people feel, who have little or nothing…

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Being Human Part 3 – I’m Right You’re Wrong! – We All Do It

This is a follow up to ‘Saying Goodybe To People Pleasing’ HERE I have come to the conclusion that being on a journey of self-awareness or spirituality can breed a unsavoury side to how we deal with ourselves. Many people view weaknesses or imperfections as un-spiritual. I imagine there are…

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