So they say beauty is the eye of the beholder and yet the subject of attraction can have many components. We are led to believe that we are automatically pre-disposed to find certain qualities attractive in another person, be it physical or biological, but over the years I have discovered that attraction can be fleeting, physical attraction most of all. Attraction and Infatuation Recently I had my first experience of…
View PostContinued on from Vulnerability Series Part 1 : Fear Root chakra Belonging – feeling unsafe to belong. Better to not risk belonging because belonging equals the potential for being hurt and rejected. So to not allow myself to belong in any group, tribe or circle means no more rejection or hurt. And in doing so, cutting off my connection to the abundance and support that the whole can…
View PostYesterday I picked an Osho card that was quite deep and fairly immense in terms of a message, and it re-confirmed another message I had received from a gentlemen who leads a mediumship circle I have recently become involved in. Part of the Osho message said: When we carry a load of shoulds and shouldn′ts imposed on us by others we become like this ragged, struggling figure trying to make…
View PostThere appears to be this unspoken message that to inspire others, to teach, or to share our inner wisdom with the world we need to be perfect. You may see it in the media, on-line, on videos where motivational speakers, writers and teachers spend a lot of time affirming the need to be positive and sharing very little, often none of their human flaws or vulnerabilities – this is…
View PostWhen I was a little girl, I was brought up with the belief that I was inherently wrong. Making a simple mistake at a really young age I was brought face-to-face with the headmistress of our school. At age 6 it was scary going to that big office. I was made to feel that my mistake was so serious it had embarrassed not only her but the entire school. I…
View PostWe may meet that occasional human being with that Pollyanna attitude, always positive; always looking on the bright side; always pouring light and love over any dark or dire situation; but Pollyanna is not whole. Pollyanna is missing half of who she is. But is there a negative side to positive thinking Unfortunately this is what some personal development paths are encouraging – being ‘positive’ pretty much all of the…
View PostFor the longest time I believed that to have high self-esteem was a worthy goal to aim for. I didn’t even realise I had this goal until recently. Practising mindfulness led me into a less goal/future orientated approach to living and a more ‘present moment’ experience. Little did I know, lingering in the back of my mind, was the desire to not have low self-esteem and this automatically created the…
View PostJealousy, a feeling many people experience, is something that can cause a depressive mood, anger, rage and sometimes numbness. I was a very jealous person, and I still have my moments. My jealousy was not so much in romantic relationships, but more an intense jealousy of people ‘appearing’ to do far better than me in life. My list of jealousy moments included: Jealousy of friends and family succeeding professionally and…
View Post1. Start to see your ‘No’s as an affirmative ‘Yes’ to your life! Every time you allow someone to cross a personal boundary you are giving them permission to keep on doing ‘whatever’ they are doing and saying to yourself that you do not deserve better. 2. Remember you are not being mean to anyone by setting boundaries. When you don’t set boundaries you are being mean to yourself…
View PostAs a teenager I had quite bad acne, but rosacea did not come until my late twenties after my father died. I know that many people try to treat rosacea with a chemical or cream-based approach, and I did the same for some time so desperate was I to be rid of this condition. Alas nothing worked consistently until I realised that rosacea is not simply a ‘one-size fits all’…
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