Stop Carrying Expectations and ‘Shoulds’ From Others

Yesterday I picked an Osho card that was quite deep and fairly immense in terms of a message, and it re-confirmed another message I had received from a gentlemen who leads a mediumship circle I have recently become involved in. Part of the Osho message said:  When we carry a…

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Facebook Detox – Good For The Soul

Are you someone who checks Facebook often or other social networks? If you are travelling or at home do you flick between networks when you are not sure what to do or you feel bored?   Are you a Facebook addict? I was travelling to London last week and noticed…

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Are ‘You’ Unhappy? Or Is Unhappiness Just Appearing?

“There is unhappiness in me.” A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle It’s so very easy to say inwardly or outwardly ‘I’m sad’ or ‘I’m depressed’ or ‘I’m miserable, but how many of us question these beliefs? This year I published my first book and I also gave up my drug of…

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No Need To Be Perfect To Inspire Others

There appears to be this unspoken message that to inspire others, to teach, or to share our inner wisdom with the world we need to be perfect. You may see it in the media, on-line, on videos where motivational speakers, writers and teachers spend a lot of time affirming the…

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Being Pollyanna – How To Be A Balanced Human

We may meet that occasional human being with that Pollyanna attitude, always positive; always looking on the bright side; always pouring light and love over any dark or dire situation; but Pollyanna is not whole. Pollyanna is missing half of who she is. But is there a negative side to positive thinking…

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Are You Chasing Self-Esteem?

For the longest time I believed that to have high self-esteem was a worthy goal to aim for. I didn’t even realise I had this goal until recently. Practising mindfulness led me into a less goal/future orientated approach to living and a more ‘present moment’ experience. Little did I know,…

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Jealousy – How To Use It As A Motivational Tool

Jealousy, a feeling many people experience, is something that can cause a depressive mood, anger, rage and sometimes numbness. I was a very jealous person, and I still have my moments. My jealousy was not so much in romantic relationships, but more an intense jealousy of people ‘appearing’ to do…

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Top 10 Tips on Setting Boundaries

1. Start to see your ‘No’s as an affirmative ‘Yes’ to your life! Every time you allow someone to cross a personal boundary you are giving them permission to keep on doing ‘whatever’ they are doing and saying to yourself that you do not deserve better. 2. Remember you are…

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Rosacea and Shame

As a teenager I had quite bad acne, but rosacea did not come until my late twenties after my father died. I know that many people try to treat rosacea with a chemical or cream-based approach, and I did the same for some time so desperate was I to be…

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