Who Am I Without Pain and Suffering?

I’m sure I’m not the only one who finds that their life story has felt more an ongoing pain drama than one of joy and peace and light. People will say it is a choice and of course it is, but, and it’s a big BUT, it can feel as if the choice is taken out of our hands sometimes. So, who would we be without our pain and suffering?…

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Why Leaning In To The Pain Is Important

Lying on the couch while chatting with my acupuncturist, we had a conversation about pain, grief, fear and loss. I told him about how when I was finally beginning to face the fear of loss that had been ruling my actions and limiting my life for so long, life gave me the greatest trigger in my best friend getting sick, but he reminded me of something I needed to know.…

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Being Grateful For The Pain Journey

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 76 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 76. Today I am going to talk about being grateful for the pain journey, which is, might I say, not an easy road to take. Whether we have physical pain, emotional or mental pain or all of this,…

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How To Rewrite A Painful Life Script

Like many people, I chose a painful life script. Mine was littered with death, loss, abandonment and perceived failure. Your life script may be one of incredible childhood trauma, relationship difficulties, health issues…it doesn’t matter what form our pain script comes in, it can often feel so great that we have no idea how to unravel ourselves from it or indeed to finally let it go. In my previous blog…

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Are You Frightened To Let Go Of Loved Ones?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 75 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 75. Today I am going to talk about letting go of attachment to other people and how challenging it can feel when you have had a fear of loss or other fears for a long time. At the…

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Are You Attached to Pain and Suffering?

Sitting here on a cloudy Sunday afternoon, I consider my life and why the black dog of depression is visiting me once more. I think most of us who suffer from depression feel, ‘Why is this visiting me again, can I not have a break from this endless pain?’ But what if I told you this is exactly what you need? I’ve spoken before about being addicted to the darkness,…

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Is Your Judgement Preventing You Receiving?

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 74 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 74. Today I am going to talk about how judgement of that which we want can set us up for a life of never receiving it. This past 2 weeks I have been delving deeply into my own…

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Is Fear of Loss Preventing Your Happiness?

Do you experience a feeling of lack in your life? A lack of love? A lack of abundance? A lack of friendship? A lack of success? You may be experiencing an inner protection strategy that prevents you from having ‘anything’ to lose because of a deep fear of loss. Like me you may be looking at your life wondering why isn’t it working? Why do I make so much effort…

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Is Success Out Of Your Reach? Stop Striving!

Listen above or tune in on Apple Podcasts or Podbean EPISODE 73 – PODCAST TRANSCRIPT Hi there, welcome back to Kelly Martin Speaks. I’m your host Kelly Martin and this is episode 73. Today I am going to talk about succeeding without striving and getting to know our personal life season that we are currently in. Yesterday I was watching a video by someone called Teal Swan on the topic…

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Why ‘Manning Up’ Should Include Crying and Vulnerability

“Men can often feel isolated and unable to tell people how they are feeling – a culture of men shouldering pain alone has developed. We need to challenge toxic ideas of masculinity that prevent openness and vulnerability in men. It takes real courage to be open and honest about mental health, but when suicide is the leading cause of death for young men, we all have a responsibility to push…

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