Are You Scared To Be Seen?

Have you ever been so scared about something you have cried? This was me recently.I know that many of my readers suffer from anxiety and depression and I imagine many of you experience social anxiety too. Some of you may have a fear of public speaking and some may have a deeper fear called a phobia. But what if your fear is of being ‘seen and heard’? This was my…

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How To Mindfully Love Without Getting Lost

No one can fill the void in your heart, only love does this. Not love from outside, but love from within. In my past, I was a needy, attached, jealous lover. I was in a state of perpetual ‘not good enough’ and so I attracted lovers who did not value me for who I was. I attracted lovers who reinforced my feelings of not deserving in my life. I lived…

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Anxiety – Allowing Vulnerability

“Anxiety should never be viewed as an inherent weakness but rather an out-of-control strength. It takes tremendous strength to never act out rage; to take that energy, to repress it inwardly where it becomes anxiety – so as to not harm anyone else.” ~ Steve Ray Ozanich For the longest time I suffered in silence with intense anxiety. I hid this experience from everyone but close family. Of my friends…

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7 Tips For Managing Anxiety

    We are often told by people who don’t suffer from anxiety to find something to relax us. We are told to meditate, or to take deep breaths, but clearly people without anxiety do not understand the process of anxiety.  We cannot use positive thinking to ‘get out’ of an anxious state of mind. Meditation in the taking of deep breaths and trying to quiet the mind does not work with anxiety but there are ways…

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Attached To Feeling Good

Many ‘spiritual’ teachings encourage positive thinking, yet by doing so they are resisting the entirety of our human experience. The teachings can often be so generalised that they do not take into account an individual’s personal history, conditioning and much more. What we need is balance, and to not be attached to feeling joyful or blissed-up and happy. In Buddhism it is said non-attachment to everything is the key to…

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Holding Fear With A Compassionate Heart – Anxiety

When fear arises, most of us will do anything to not feel it. We use all kinds of mechanisms to resist fear; overeating, drinking, watching TV, playing computer games, listening to music, over-socialising, over-working and generally keeping busy. Yet the underlying fear still remains.  It’s like trying to hold a balloon under water. All these attempts to diffuse the feelings simply do not work. I was like this for most…

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WIN Stress Free in 30 Days By Charles Linden – DVD (2 Winners! – UK) – Review – NOW CLOSED

WIN    Stress Free In 30 Days (DVD)   By Charles Linden   Published: June 2013 Publisher: Hay House UK Buy a copy of the DVD from hayhouse.co.uk (UK)    Charles Linden, the creator of the ‘Linden Method’, an anxiety recovery program, has created a book and DVD to support those who want tools to help them live a stress-free life. In this DVD, he takes you through different difficulties,…

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Anxiety & Mindfulness – Seeing The Noise Of This World As Family

    As someone who has had anxiety since a young child, I know what it feels like to have the debilitating fear that floods you when the anxiety comes up, from panic attacks to social anxiety, to anxiety that just comes up for no conscious reason at all. So, I decided to try something new after years of using avoidance tactics. Mindfulness Meditation Last week I attended my first…

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The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner – Book Review

Title: The Tapping Solution – A Revolutionary System For Stress-Free Living   Author:  Nick Ortner   Published: 2013   Publisher: Hay House   Pages: 229   Price: (RRP) £12.99 (paperback)   $24.95 (hard cover)   Genre: Self Help   Buy The Tapping Solution  in the UK HERE in the USA HERE     A New York Times Best-seller   A few years ago I came across something quite profound and quite transformative in its healing…

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Frustrated and Feeling Stuck ?

When you are striving towards something in life, it can feel that the road is infinitely long sometimes. Frustration is something many people experience, that, and feeling stuck. I know I have and still do. One day, while considering this, I was reminded that everything is in perfect timing, including emotions such as frustration and resistance. We want to be rid of the resistance and we feel that the resistance…

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