How To Embrace Anxiety and Manage The Symptoms

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Anxiety is a tough experience, as I know only too well. I’ve suffered with anxiety since my early childhood and into my adult years. I understand how painful it feels, how stressful and how debilitating it can be.Throughout my childhood I was incredibly shy, but back then I didn’t know words like ‘anxiety’. I just knew that the world around me was very scary and I felt that I was under attack emotionally all of the time.

Because of this pain, I built my life around hiding who I was, made sure I could avoid experiences that caused my anxiety to get worse and used food and alcohol to reduce the symptoms.Overall I suffered from:
  • Social anxiety
  • Future fears anxiety
  • Caring what everyone else thought of me anxiety
  • Public speaking anxiety

Social anxiety was the hardest and is still something I have to consciously be aware of every day. I’m in my early forties and I can honestly say that anxiety symptoms have gotten easier, but it has taken a lot of self-exploration, confidence building measures and self-care to get to where I am today.

Over the years the symptoms of anxiety I have experienced have been intense:

  • My heart racing when doing something new
  • Sweaty palms
  • Slight breathlessness
  • Extreme panic attacks
  • Obsessive thoughts
  • Avoidance of social events
  • Avoiding potential career advances because it involved public speaking
  • Excessive blushing
  • Rapid talking when introduced to someone new
  • Discomfort with silence in a conversation

There are more symptoms of anxiety, this short video explains it in more detail.

Panic Attacks Felt As If I Was Going To Die

I remember my first real awareness that I was having a panic attack. Up until that point, I hadn’t realised that what I was experiencing were panic attacks, but this one made me realise that the way I was living was no longer working for me in life.

I had decided to go to my first meditation class in a long time. I had been a loner for a few years and it was a big deal going out to meet new people and doing something new. I sat down on a chair while I was guided into a meditation. The teacher was using something called Tibetan singing bowls and her voice to take us into the meditation.

I listened to her speak and then my mind started screaming at me, followed by a telephone going off downstairs, people talking, a pneumatic drill started outside the building, bells from the cathedral started to chime. I then realised I couldn’t breathe; I was becoming very hot; I felt as if my heart was going to explode out of my chest and my breath seemed to only go so far as my belly. I literally felt that I was going to die.

I had been practising mindfulness at home and as the panic arose something switched in my head and instead of resisting the panic I allowed it in; I welcomed it. It wasn’t easy to welcome but I allowed everything its place in my world; the sounds, the panic, the heat, and then something made me realise that all of the sounds I heard outside were in fact inside me. The world was mirroring me. And all at once anxiety became more a harmony of sound, not something negative, just an experience passing through me.

‘’Anxiety is one of the most prevalent mental health conditions in the UK – one in five people report feeling anxious a lot or all of the time; and more than 45 million working days have been lost due to anxiety (combined with depression and stress) in the past three years. Psychological symptoms of anxiety include worry, spinning thoughts and insomnia due to a racing mind. Anxiety can also affect the body – causing issues such as a racing heartbeat, nausea, headaches and muscle tension. These symptoms can feel very distressing.’’ Anxiety UK CEO, Nicky Lidbetter
ANXIETY INFOGRAPHIC

Anxiety Became A Healing Journey For Me

Once I realised anxiety had come to me for a reason, I knew I had to learn how to manage this feeling, this extreme sensitivity to both the world outside me but also the world of thoughts and intense feelings inside of me.

So I began to try different things to shift and understand my anxiety better.

 

My ANXIETY TOOLBOX

 
      1. Normal meditation
MAN MEDITATING
Meditation involves closing the eyes, watching the breath, simply being. It can also be a guided meditation where you are taken on a journey into your inner world to somewhere nice and calming. Meditation can be done to peaceful music to help distract the mind. While this is beneficial to a degree, it didn’t last because as soon as I left my meditation space the anxiety returned just as powerfully. However, I do still recommend basic meditation as a practice because it can soothe the nerves when at home.
 
     2. Mindfulness Meditation
 
MINDFULNESS

Mindfulness is different to normal meditation. In mindfulness, you begin to focus on what is happening in a non-judgemental and accepting way. You may simply focus on body parts,  going through areas of the body and feeling what is there, to a deeper practice where you become an observer of the mental process, where you can label your thoughts, to make them not as important. For example If I was thinking about what is for dinner, I would label that thought ‘planning’. But for me the deepest form of mindfulness was when I allowed the emotions and fears to arise in my belly and chest and allowed them space to be, not trying to make them anything other than what they were. By giving them space, they reduced and relaxed.

This was the beginning of change for me, to discover that these feelings, these thoughts, were not to be avoided and resisted, but were calling me into a more loving space. I had been trying to ‘get rid’ of anxiety most of my life, not recognising that trying to get rid of a feeling that is already there, is like beating up on myself and not accepting ‘what is’.

Once I allowed the feelings to have their space to be, without trying to change them, things began to shift. This natural acceptance reduced my anxiety big time. And while I still get some anxiety for social events and new experiences, it’s not as debilitating as it once was.

If you Google ‘mindfulness’ you will discover that there are many mindfulness classes all over the world now to help people who suffer from anxiety and depression.

      3. Aromatherapy
 
AROMATHERAPY

Aromatherapy is an ancient therapy where as far back as 6000 years ago plants were used to heal and help people, but it was not labelled aromatherapy until 1937 by a French chemist who discovered the benefits of lavender oil in relation to a burn he had experienced.

In my office I have an aromatherapy diffuser which has been a very soothing addition to my home. I add oils like lavender, geranium and frankincense to soothe my nerves on days when my emotions are more heightened.

In addition to external use, Kalms Lavender* is a treatment I have recently been introduced to, new to the UK. I have not used it myself, but I am keen to give it a go sometime.

I’ve never been someone who takes prescribed drugs for my anxiety, but I know many who do, who would like an alternative.

Kalms Lavender contains a uniquely prepared pharmaceutical quality lavender oil used to relieve the symptoms of anxiety.

*Kalms Lavender One-A-Day Capsules is a traditional herbal medicinal product used for the temporary relief of the symptoms of mild anxiety such as stress and nervousness, exclusively based on long standing use as a traditional herbal remedy. Always read the label.

 

       4. Hypnotherapy

BRAIN NEURONS

Hypnotherapy has really helped in many ways, but not just any hypnotherapy. I’ve really benefited from a form of hypnotherapy that involved overloading my conscious mind, causing my thinking to shut down, while receiving suggestive statements.

In my early twenties I tried normal hypnotherapy, but it didn’t work for me. The hypnotherapist at the time did not recognise that because of anxiety my mind was very much in control and needed distracting for the therapy to work.

In 2016 I saw another hypnotherapist who used something called a confusion script. Before the suggestions were placed into my unconscious mind, she completely confused my conscious mind to the point that I drifted off and was better able to absorb statements that were more healthy for me as an anxiety sufferer. These statements helped grow my confidence and helped me face situations I had avoided before, like public speaking and social events. I recommend this form of hypnotherapy for anxiety sufferers because of my experience, but also if you wish to try something at home instead, I’ve also used something called ‘Hypno-peripheral programming’ which is where two stories are played into the ears via audio headphones so that the conscious mind cannot focus on one story.

Messages overlap to bring in more positive experiences of who you are in the process. These are very relaxing and great to listen to before sleep.

       5. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE
 

Some time ago I came across a method called EFT.

EFT works on the basis that many of our conditioned responses are locked into the physical body and the emotional body. Using a system of tapping on acupressure points while making specific statements, helps free up the blocked energy. What is great about EFT is you can practice it in the middle of a panic attack or heightened anxiety experience. I’ve used EFT before a job interview where there was a panel of interviewers to face, and by the time I got to the interview I was no longer anxious at all, in fact, I felt like I had gone to interview them not the other way round, a huge turnaround.

     6. Reducing or Quitting Coffee

COFFEE

I have been known to be a coffee addict. As I also suffered from depression for many years (I’ve noticed that many people who suffer from anxiety may have some level of depression also), I tended to use coffee to boost my flagging spirit and mood, but the downside was that it made my anxiety worse. Using coffee to wake me up in the morning really affected my adrenal glands as a woman in a huge way.

My endocrine system was really messed up and quitting coffee and making other dietary changes had a significant impact on how I felt emotionally and physically. As women, we have enough to contend with, with hormones shifting, menopause and so much more, that to add another stimulant to the mix is not great. I now drink maybe 1-2 coffees a week. It’s now a treat not a necessity.

    7. Dietary Changes

HEALTHY DIET
 
Apart from emotional and mental reasons, anxiety can be intensified based on what we put into our bodies. The well-known Doctor Kelly Brogan has done a lot of research into this and has discovered that anxiety/depression is really affected by what we put into the body, and that the brain is directly affected too.  So once I discovered I had something called Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, I saw that many people with this condition suffered from anxiety and depression so I decided to change my diet. It was quite a big change, but I have gotten used to it now. My diet is primarily gluten-free, milk-free and I reduced my sugar and coffee intake. I also try to limit potatoes and other stodgier foods. This change made me not only effortlessly lose weight, but also cleared up my skin and caused a lessening of anxiety symptoms.

From Coping Systems To General Self-Care

The biggest lesson I have learned from anxiety is that you can’t run away from it, that you can’t and shouldn’t try to suppress it, because generally it comes back louder in the long term. Once we begin to see that our mental health is as important as our heart, our liver, our kidneys… and see that our whole system needs attention, we can really make a difference to how we experience this world. Anxiety needn’t be something that stops your life, but yes, changes need to be made if we want to view anxiety differently.If you suffer from anxiety, my above recommendations could really make the difference between suffering or embracing what is happening. How we perceive anxiety makes a huge difference, so a beginning is to see it as a friend not a foe, highlighting some changes that need to take place in our lives.

 Question: What helps you with anxiety symptoms?

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Kelly Martin is the author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ , a passionate writer and blogger questioning life’s illusions. After what seemed like a decade of intense anxiety, feelings of failure and grief from the loss of her father she chose to take a mindfulness path and has not looked back since. Kelly encourages people to find the treasures that lie within the pain and suffering and to learn to see themselves as ‘enough’ exactly as they are, right now through her writing and You Tube channel .

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