In the beginning of a spiritual journey it is very easy to take spiritual messages and teachings at face value. I remember in the first five years of my spiritual path I was like a sponge, keen to absorb everything and anything. I loved the metaphysical and new age, and I met a lot of people with the same interests. However, I lost my critical thinker. I guess I wanted so much for techniques, messages, training to be for me that I simply believed everything.
One thing I learned after following many channelled writings, teachers, methods, processes, law of attraction techniques and manifesting messages, is that there is no fast track to change. It takes time and commitment. And I also began to question those teachers, so much so I even posted a video on YouTube (here) that received such a huge response (mainly attacking my video) and I had to eventually stop comments. It was hard to let go of certain teachings because of my human need to belong. Once I put a critical thinking cap on I no longer belonged, I was my own person with a differing viewpoint.
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Kelly Martin, author of ‘When Everyone Shines But You’ is a dedicated writer and blogger who fearlessly explores life’s deepest questions. Faced with a decade of profound anxiety and grief following the loss of her father and her best friend Michael, Kelly embarked on a transformative journey guided by mindfulness, and she hasn’t looked back since. Through her insightful writing, engaging podcasts, and inspiring You Tube channel Kelly empowers others to unearth the hidden treasures within their pain, embracing the profound truth that they are ‘enough’ exactly as they are.
Hi Kelly, great post. I am aware there is still an element of me that could get sucked in to believing things that aren't right for me, but I'm getting better. I've only really been on the alternative spirituality path for 3 or 4 years so still learning. After coming out of Christianity, I got into the self-help movement and was a bit gullible back then. It eventually became fairly obvious that much of the self-help stuff ie Tony Robbins was not for me. I was never mad on Abraham HIcks, some of it sounded nice but I wasn't quite resonating with some of it.
I think it's good to try things out and keep an open mind .. and a discerning mind. With the Ho'oponopono, I'm going pretty much on your recommendations and I do have a good feeling about it. With the Law of Attraction .. how all that works varies from person to person, I think. Some literature .. can make you feel like you 'should' believe it, not mentioning any names of course. I guess there's also a danger one could be too cynical.
Anyway thanks for sharing this, I'll try and remember to keep a critical mind 🙂
Thanks Andy, yes, it is so easily done. I started self-discovery in 1999 but went through many teachers, messages and believed them all, and yes they were right for me at the time but none of them were really right for me. I guess the need to belong to a group was my guiding force back then and questioning was not even thought about. And yes haha I can be a bit cynical too but try to tell myself each message is for someone.